ode to the fuck it bucket
I re-read Me Talk Pretty One Day near the end of my pregnancy with miss baby fish, & now, whenever I put her in her carseat bucket for purposes other than auto safety, I think of it as the fuck it bucket.
the first time used it like for my own personal gain (probably to make a sandwich for my kid. does that count as personal gain?) I had huge, flattening guilt. an embarrassment of embarrassed guilt. I thought about all of the anti-bucket threads way way back on hipMama, how I read them nodding my head & complete right on sister mama! agreement, of course course course the bucket is only for the car, sling sling sling those babies! it was a hook of mine, like bigfatmama was talking about a while ago, the judgmental parenting hook. & with one baby, yeah, it was easy, he wanted to be held all the time, he wanted to be slung all the time, he didn't like the bucket anyway, so no big deal.
now, though, I have to do stuff in ways I didn't when I only had one kid, I've got a baby who is v specific about how/if she will consent to be slung, & a toddler who requires the occasional two-hands-required wrangle. plus, it gives her a protective shell for when her brother wants to love her up (there are few things better than toddler love, but there are many things gentler). long live the fuck it bucket!
(too bad it's not full of candy.)
oh, also, anyone seen that Can You Tell gameshow on Oxygen? the guesser with glasses totally reminds me of misseula.
the first time used it like for my own personal gain (probably to make a sandwich for my kid. does that count as personal gain?) I had huge, flattening guilt. an embarrassment of embarrassed guilt. I thought about all of the anti-bucket threads way way back on hipMama, how I read them nodding my head & complete right on sister mama! agreement, of course course course the bucket is only for the car, sling sling sling those babies! it was a hook of mine, like bigfatmama was talking about a while ago, the judgmental parenting hook. & with one baby, yeah, it was easy, he wanted to be held all the time, he wanted to be slung all the time, he didn't like the bucket anyway, so no big deal.
now, though, I have to do stuff in ways I didn't when I only had one kid, I've got a baby who is v specific about how/if she will consent to be slung, & a toddler who requires the occasional two-hands-required wrangle. plus, it gives her a protective shell for when her brother wants to love her up (there are few things better than toddler love, but there are many things gentler). long live the fuck it bucket!
(too bad it's not full of candy.)
oh, also, anyone seen that Can You Tell gameshow on Oxygen? the guesser with glasses totally reminds me of misseula.