More than a feeling....

[coppatop]

This entry came sooner than I expected after my last one, so if you hadn’t read it yet, check out my last entry if you are interested in an exceedingly “special” six flags adventure the first weekend in August

Comments

lust?

[anonymous]

you seem to have mixed feelings. i do have to say that there must be some sort of sexual attraction that occurs when you have strong emotional feelings for someone. i agree that doing less with someone that you have strong emotions toward is better than doing more with someone you are only physically attracted to (lust). to simplify things i'm just going to use the word "love" for strong emotional feelings and "lust" for physical attraction. to me when you love someone you have a strong connection, emmense amounts of trust, and feelings that develop over time as well as that possible original lust. love does not always develop from lust, although sometimes it does. lust to me is a physical attraction that fulfills that instant of desire that you need to feel complete in the moment. it is something that can be filled by one of many people who step into your life at that moment in time, where as love is something that is perpetual, and carries through. something that fills a little part of you allowing for you to have this feeling of

Re: lust?

[anonymous]

again, i'd like to state that i was just using the words love and lust. it seems as if you had an emotional attachment for them, not quite to the love extent, but leaning more that way. you have an emotional attachment to these girls, that slowly fades. kinda like how friendships are strong but slowly fade sometimes. its more than pure lust, but its less than love. but you have an attachment (which i have to say is better than some guys even have).

[thecretin]

amen

[anonymous]

You can't say it's not lust; that's exactly what it is. But your lust is more than the first glance- you lust for qualities in a woman, her abilities. You may find out later your personalities don't click, but when you're first attracted to them you check off a list of qualities you like about her (she likes to snowboard: check, she likes punk rock: check). This mental filter of good qualities creates lust. It's not love; it fades quickly when you get to know the person better and realize there's baggage to accompany the qualities you thought were really important for the girl you like to have.

[coppatop]

While I will agree that it is not love, I must say that the feeling does not fade quickly. It fades VERY slowly, if at all.

[anonymous]

So... Can't you just really like someone? Isn't what comes after initial attraction but before love? The feeling that perhaps, you could love this person?