People need to rethink what they are bragging about. If one more person brags about not cheating in their lifetime, I'ma flip out on them. Nobody cares that you AREN'T a douche. Seriously
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It's only an accomplishment if you turn down someone hotter/richer/more awesome than your wife.
So if she's uglier, it's not really cheating? Or not really as bad at least?
I think this ignores a lot of the emotional aspects of cheating. It's not always about getting a hot piece of tail or a particularly impressive addition to your list. Sometimes folks are tempted to cheat for deeper reasons than that.
Hmmm...no, it's still cheating. The 'more awesome' part was supposed to include all things that may be unique interests of the specific person. So uglier may be less important than some OTHER important thing that person wants. It's the resistance to cheating with someone they'd actually WANT to cheat with that's the accomplishment I was describing. I guess I made it seem more aesthetic than I intended.
Well, even so, it's not just the aesthetics thing I was objecting to (I wouldn't really bother with such a cliche argument and I don't think you'd seriously defend it anyway). It just serves to illustrate a greater point, and that's that it's not always about how one person 'compares' to another, in any area, including beauty.
For one thing, even if you broaden it to someone just being 'more awesome' in one way or another, that's going to be in the eye of the beholder. So it might be an 'accomplishment' to one person to resist someone they find attractive that perhaps you don't. But more importantly... Saying that it's only an accomplishment if someone turns down someone 'better' than whomever they're in a relationship with is really a gross oversimplification of what can draw a person to another.
Well, it has to be someone they'd want to cheat with. For whatever reason. If there was some reason somebody would want to cheat with someone worse than their current partner (which seems weird but people are nuts) and they were in a situation that it appealed to them AND was a viable option...but they resisted the urge, then it's still an accomplishment.
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So if she's uglier, it's not really cheating? Or not really as bad at least?
I think this ignores a lot of the emotional aspects of cheating. It's not always about getting a hot piece of tail or a particularly impressive addition to your list. Sometimes folks are tempted to cheat for deeper reasons than that.
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For one thing, even if you broaden it to someone just being 'more awesome' in one way or another, that's going to be in the eye of the beholder. So it might be an 'accomplishment' to one person to resist someone they find attractive that perhaps you don't. But more importantly... Saying that it's only an accomplishment if someone turns down someone 'better' than whomever they're in a relationship with is really a gross oversimplification of what can draw a person to another.
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