Promise

Dec 04, 2009 13:45


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asakiyume December 4 2009, 19:57:17 UTC
Lovely essay, sad, gentle, and thought provoking. And very beautiful picture, too.

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core_opsis December 4 2009, 20:10:23 UTC
Thanks. I wrote it for a "writing party" I'm going tonight. Someone chose as a topic "promise" and then folks will all bring something they wrote for that topic. I made the drawing last week, and while I don't particularly like the drawing, it made me really really sad.

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asakiyume December 4 2009, 20:12:56 UTC
I do like the drawing--maybe you see flaws in it that I can't.

Sorry you're feeling down--this is a hard time, though, I know.

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core_opsis December 4 2009, 21:22:18 UTC
Oh, I'm not down at all...it seems appropriate to miss one's distant child at times. I've actually had a quite lovely fall....

And as for the drawing...well, it seems kindof crude, and doesn't really hang together....

I should write you a REAL letter because I want to know how you are!

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haikujaguar December 4 2009, 21:00:42 UTC
Thank you for writing this.

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core_opsis December 4 2009, 21:22:54 UTC
I'm glad you liked it....

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haikujaguar December 4 2009, 21:41:49 UTC
My daughter is 2, so you'll understand when I say it fills me with trepidation also.

From my college sketchbooks I remember clearly drawing a picture of myself with several spiky-looking chromosomes while listening to a lecture in psychology class about the very normal parents of a serial killer. I was scared of just the thing you are writing about here. I still am.

But what can you do? But love them?

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core_opsis December 6 2009, 14:15:30 UTC
I wouldn't worry too much--there was a very strong correlation (I'd say 100% in the case of this particular class) between good parenting and good outcomes. And by good parenting, I don't mean being perfect--I mean being parents who love their children and care about them and pay attention to the and try to do the best they can, which I can tell from your posts that you do completely!

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westerling December 5 2009, 04:40:42 UTC
Oh, this was beautifully heart-wrenching. Thank you. Mine is in fifth grade this year--we've talked about this a bit--and it's a big transition.

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core_opsis December 6 2009, 14:17:03 UTC
Oh fifth grade--it's such a lovely year. Right in the middle of the golden age of childhood. But the thing about kids is that they just get better and better, and more and more themselves the older they get.

It IS an adjustment, though, having a son off in college.

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