Claiming one's space

[corpsefairy]

So I went lindy hopping the other night, which was fun and I should do it more often. There was a Jack and Jill dance contest that night, which I watched from the sidelines

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[akiko]

I've heard that condition called "Lavaballs."

[chimerically]

Good! I still feel incredibly awkward when I make such comments, but I've been trying to be better about making them anyway.

[plymouth]

I'm the sort who would sorta gently shove back (increasingly less gently if I didn't get results) until he got the picture instead of saying something. I spent an entire plane flight with my elbow jammed against some dude who was trying to lean past the armwrest. Neither of us said anything.

Note: I am not actually recommending this strategy. I probably would have been more comfortable if I'd said something early on but after a few minutes of him not getting it I was like "well I'll be damned if I am going to move my arm or say anything now!" I can be stubborn like that.

[chimerically]

Yeah, I've also employed this strategy to reclaim at least part of arm-rests.

[allartburns]

Maybe I grew up in a smaller space, but I have never understood this way of sitting politely. It might be for a different reason -- one never crosses their legs in public -- which also solves a lot of problems with skirts as well as guys taking up all the space on a bench.