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[cosmic_cat]

I can see why long distance relationships have a high failure rate. They are hard, really really hard. Dan and I have been going through a little but of a rough patch lately. I don't know if it's because he WAS down and then went back, or what but I'm finding it pretty difficult. It might alsobe exacerbated by the fact that I'm hating Helleville

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[tranceptor]

Why do you want to reduce the "couplyness"? (that is soooo not a word BTW XD)

[cosmic_cat]

I just don't want to go too fast or rush into thigns. I know myself, if I go too quickly for my comfort level i'll probably freak out and sabotage this, and I'm really happy with how things are - for the most part.

[tranceptor]

Hasn't it been like a year? While I haven't been the biggest Dan fan, peronally I think it is pretty safe to say that your pacing has been very good.

Bonus points for your self-awareness and willingness to try and stop yourself from doing exactly what you don't want to do. I am impressed by your personal growth :)

[cosmic_cat]

Yeah, well, a year isn't that long in the grand scheme of life. It's like a flash when you consider how long everything else goes and I am not exactly the poster child for committed, long-term relationships and being comfortable jumping into them. They always seem nice, for a bit and then I get bored, or freaked out, or frustrated or whatever. So, I'm trying to take this slow. Not freak myself out. Like people i know ar egetting married, having kids, moving in, buying houses, getting careers. It's just a lot to take in.

And thanks, I AM trying.