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cosmickitty77

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Jul 07, 2004 19:36

Found out yesterday that Spence will have to go back to Edmonton after August 20th. For how long? Will he come back? What will happen to us? Your guess is as good as mine.
*puke*

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nefas July 8 2004, 00:42:13 UTC

*hug*

I needed that... cosmickitty77 July 8 2004, 01:01:59 UTC

thank you sweetie

cyberjulez July 8 2004, 00:54:32 UTC

*hugs*

Thank you hun *hugs* cosmickitty77 July 8 2004, 01:13:59 UTC

I try to tell myself that I'm not going to sit around and mope about it. That everything will work out...and then I think about how drastically different my life is going to be, and the tears start flowing. The one person I've ever truly loved...the one person I wanted to share the rest of my life with is going to be gone in a month and a half. After two and a half years of sacrificing, and growing with each other...all for what seems like nothing. Tell you a secret...I'd marry him tonight if it meant he never had to leave again. But that's the selfish side of me talking...and I know he's not ready for that. So I just sit and hope that he'll come back to me after this all gets worked out. There's nothing I, or anyone else, can do to change anything...and it fucking kills me.

Re: Thank you hun *hugs* cyberjulez July 8 2004, 03:21:38 UTC

I know it does sweetie. You know, all the freaking cliches are going through my head. But they don't help at a time like this. If you both love each other as much as I think you do, I don't think you have to worry. It'll be lonely and crappy, but you will both still love each other, and you will find some way to be together.

Have you ever thought of going with him?

Re: Thank you hun *hugs* cosmickitty77 July 8 2004, 19:38:42 UTC

I have thought about it. I don't know. I'd need to see what's all involved. It's selfish of me, but I dunno if I can. Believe it or not, I actually like Wisconsin...as I'm sure Spence loves Edmonton. And being an only child, I don't know if I can leave my mom and my stepdad...I don't know if they'd be okay with it. Does that sound weird? I only get to see them like twice a year as it is. And my dad...I haven't spoken to him in years...I'd have to tie up some loose ends there. I just don't know, Julie.

not that you need to answer these but... moosie July 8 2004, 01:10:23 UTC

Why does he need to go back? Why wouldn't he come back? Have things gone south between you two? If not, what would make you question your future? I think you guys will be fine. I hope that all goes well for him in whatever he needs to return home for.

**MEGASMOOGLES**

~M~

Re: not that you need to answer these but... cosmickitty77 July 8 2004, 01:28:44 UTC

He needs to go back because he's Canadian...oh and because the US gov't is just a bunch of bullshit. He's here on a temporary work visa, which would be renewed for a second time on August 20th...which would be the start of his third year here. And according to his immigration lawyer, that's just not possible without some sort of miracle. So...his work visa expires on August 20th, and he has to return home. Before that, he needs to find a place to live and find a new job in Edmonton, so that he CAN live. Thereafter, he and his lawyers, hopefully, will figure out some way for him to come back for a longer duration. The whole thing is just a pain in the ass and very costly, and I'm just not really sure it's fair to him, to ask him to keep starting over, just so I can be with him ( ... )

autifon July 8 2004, 02:38:23 UTC

Awww, hun, that is horrible news. I am so very sorry for you guys. On top of all the implications between you two, the stress of having to find a whole new life back in Edmonton must be outta this world! I hope they can work something out soon.

So, don't they let married people stay here? ;)

cosmickitty77 July 8 2004, 19:45:54 UTC

Uh yeah...if we're married within 90 days. It's just not reasonable for me to ask Spence to do that, if he's not ready to. Believe me, I've researched it. We'd file a fiance petition, than once the petition is accepted, he can get a work permit, but then we have to be married within 90 days. Then once married he gets some kind of visa, which I understand usually takes another 90 days, but can take up to 6 months. Then it's meeting with INS, and a bunch of proof of the relationship so they know it's not just a "sham" marriage. Then after 2 years of marriage, he's granted permanent residency...or something crazy like that. And I'm not even really sure of what the cost of everything is.
It kind of blows the big fancy wedding I've always wanted, but I'd do it to keep him here. But like I said, if he's not ready, he's not ready...and I respect that.

autifon July 9 2004, 00:38:06 UTC

Yeah, it sort of sucks to have something like that tainted by an emergency situ. Well, I hope you guys can work it out so that you can do things on your own timeframe. :)

trinity619 July 8 2004, 15:33:45 UTC

Oh no!! That's not fair!! I HATE America sometimes. It's poopy.

*hugs*

cosmickitty77 July 8 2004, 19:49:16 UTC

Yeah, it kind of sucks just a little bit. Like I said before, if he were a mexican immigrant, here illegally, no problem. Somebody in charge seriously needs to take their head out of their ass. LOL I've already written Senator Kohl...I'm not expecting anything...but ya never know.