Contemplative, a little wistful

[cr0wgrrl]

One of the main objections I've had to the idea of moving away from San Francisco is that I would miss seeing my friends.

But lately I've been thinking... about 90% of the time, I only communicate with my friends electronically. I don't tend to structure a lot of my evenings, but few people have time anymore, it seems, for casual hangouts, the last-

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[lemasquegris]

you know, I figure one makes their life where they make it. I've always felt adventure can happen anywhere, including outside of *gasp* the walls of our Faire Emerald City. That said, I've always tried to make a point of looking at SF as "homebase" and taken my adventures everywhere. I still have to force myself to do it, but I still really appreciate coming home to SF.

[cr0wgrrl]

I'd love to do that, but finances have precluded the Catboy and I from even taking vacations elsewhere to have adventure. Ironically, leaving, if there is a decent job at the other end, IS within our reach.

[noveldevice]

If you guys were in Seattle I would seriously be on your couch all the damn time. :P

(Well, that's not true, I have shit to do just like everyone else, but a bus ride away instead of a plane? Ahahahah you would get sick of me in short order.)

[cr0wgrrl]

hee :)

[unseelie]

Both seatle and portland are great places. You are not the first person to say this about San Francisco. The other folks were from Boston, and it appears boston still has it's spontanious-ness.

I haven't been very social for years as my crazy went from depression based to anxiety based; suddenly i could not be social. sucktastic! i used to have gatherings at my house, frm gaming to movie night, etc 4 nights a week back east.

these days; i can't imagine showing people my house.

Do whats best; know that you and cat boy are loved and respected; as friends and hosts, and as people.
i am going to have my morning coffee now; and hope this was not incoherent.

[cheekytubemouse]

...my crazy went from depression based to anxiety based...

I so get that. Even when it's a low-key, "just come over and watch movies with one or two of us," the anxiety gets in the way and I end up staying at home. The rational part of my brain tells me that cr0wgrrl and catboy like me and aren't going to judge me if I say something stupid, but the anxiety is unfortunately much louder. :(

[cheekytubemouse]

I just feel a little too young to be so settled into a pattern.

I understand that. I've been struggling to break out of my depression- and anxiety-based hermitude for some time now and not having much success. However, since it seems that your pattern is more location-based, a move might do you good. I'd miss being able to actually see you guys in person, but, as you said, there's still the internet.

[cr0wgrrl]

It's location-based, but also it's (for the Catboy) the deep-seated desire to have a job in his field and (for me) the deep-seated desire for a partner or two in crime who share my interests and actually want to hang out. Much as I love the Catboy, I think it's healthy to do stuff with other people, especially with his incredibly nocturnal schedule.

[cheekytubemouse]

I fully agree that it's healthy for you to do things with other people, both with the Catboy and without.

[cr0wgrrl]

I know some of this is due to the incredibly difficult parking in the city, and some due to the tight finances that make folks sit at home and not want to do anything that might involve spending money.

And yeah, I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed it too. :)