My smack to the heads are here. Not out there for all of the kink world to read. And there's reason for that. I realize these are just my opinions. Some will agree with my opinions, some not. But it is here. Not on some list somewhere.
When I started my fetlife groups I concentrated on the Chastity aspect, mostly. I didn't write "Most people don't get me. They don't get the whole chastity mindset, dynamic and choice. Woeis me, so I started this because my community just doesn't get it" I wrote in positives to attract those (Hopefully) who were interested, etc.
Most do not get it. Chastity and I feel very isolated from the greater kink community. Add to that TG and well, you get for a lot of "I don't get it" from people. Most people turn to me and either say "WTF?" or "That's just wrong" or "Ok, that's your thing, but not mine" And I accept that.
I chose the positive road to attract like minds. Why is this so hard for you and those who support this type of mindset to comprehend?