Double what Markell said. You need to sit him down and talk. It's taken years for Chris and I to get to the point where one of us can automatically call bullshit on the other for acting 5 - and even then we have the most EPIC of fights imaginable. But then we get into our minds and talk about it and deal with it. If he loves you and wants to be with you as YOU are, then he'll be willing to do that. He'll need to make adjustments to deal with your health and your lifestyle. Gods know my sex life has been sporadic and painful at best lately - and with surgery coming up, it's going to be even less frequent for a loooong time (not happening at all) - but we've talked about it and he's so far understanding that it's best for me. If he didn't get that - I'd probably punch him. On the other hand - getting rid of everything and living the life I always dreamed of sounds awfully tempting. - You know you'll be supported in anything you do.
hmmm.... Well, I've just gone through a ridiculous break up. But here's the thing, I wanted it to work, i put everything I had into it, and in the end, her attentions wandered elsewhere because I was "too much work." Kelly, you are, have always been and will always be an amazing woman. If the relationship isn't working, don't tear yourself into little bitty pieces trying to make it work. Take a big deep breathe, eat the pain, and move on.
You asked for advice, that's mine. No matter what, best of luck, and nothing but love, light and happiness in my thoughts for you.
Yesterday I texted, emailed, a left a voicemail. Nothing. I drove back from Lansing at 3am so I could catch him in the morning. He stared me down like I had killed someone and said he didnt want to talk to me. So yeah. Not sure if he will even want to work it out. Good thing I just got that raise.
Oh, sweetie, I'm sorry. IMHO, he's really *is* acting like a spoiled child who didn't get his way. That being said, considering my track record, I don't think I'm qualified to offer any advice. But you always have ALL my love and support, whatever you choose to do. And I'm glad Gentleman Loki and you are able to comfort each other.
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Also, Bob encouraged me NOT to change my last name. Even though we both had golden credit ratings, 1) there was no reason to tie up my credit rating with his, and 2) it felt to him like it was making me "property".
We finally talked last night and I think we're going to be alright. His inability to deal with shit sometimes is going to continue to be an issue but we'll figure it out.
Oh good lord Kel. I know how this goes all too well. My most recent relationship was with someone that just refuses to face issues. Honestly, I'm a grown man, and I couldn't take that bullshit any more. We all have issues, admitting that and stepping up to DO something about it separates the children from the adults. I'm glad you guys got through the current issue, and I hope that it has proven a learning experience that helps you grow closer and stronger. But don't let love blind you. I've learned that all too well these last few years.
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Gods know my sex life has been sporadic and painful at best lately - and with surgery coming up, it's going to be even less frequent for a loooong time (not happening at all) - but we've talked about it and he's so far understanding that it's best for me. If he didn't get that - I'd probably punch him.
On the other hand - getting rid of everything and living the life I always dreamed of sounds awfully tempting. - You know you'll be supported in anything you do.
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You asked for advice, that's mine. No matter what, best of luck, and nothing but love, light and happiness in my thoughts for you.
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-hugs-
Also, Bob encouraged me NOT to change my last name. Even though we both had golden credit ratings, 1) there was no reason to tie up my credit rating with his, and 2) it felt to him like it was making me "property".
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