The end of a chapter?

[cribolouf]

For years this has been building up, so my apologies to anyone who this is news to. But, I think the Furry Fandom is no longer my home. I could not feel more unwelcome in the community. At some point, everything changed, and it has become increasingly difficult for me to relate to my supposed kindred spirits. A lot of people say I've changed, and I

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[kandrel]

Furry isn't (and has never been) one single gestalt organism. Even in the "old days" of furry there were cliques and groups, genres and sub-genres that didn't quite see eye-to-eye. The difference was that there weren't enough furs back then in most places to be picky. If you wanted some local furry friends, you had to accept some people with whom you really didn't get along. Now with the much expanded scope of the fandom, there simply isn't that necessity anymore. You can surround yourself with people whose interests match yours much more closely than just they keyword "furry

[cribolouf]

That being said...what if there's no community that matches your interests closely and thus you're shunned from every branch of the furry fandom?

[kandrel]

I think it's too much to ask for an exact match. I associate myself with local gamer furs here (though I'm not nearly so skilled as many of them.) I also associate myself with the creative crowd, but as most of them are artists or musicians, it's tough to find a niche for an author like myself. If I were looking for that perfect sub-community that fit me, then it would have a population of one: myself.

Instead, I simply flit back and forth between a few friendly cliques that accept me. The idea that a group would shun you because you don't perfectly conform to their stereotype is just utterly alien to my perception of the fandom, either then or now.

There's every possibility that the problems you're having with your local community isn't their cliques or niches into which you might or might not fit, but the actually personalities themselves.

[cribolouf]

erm, I'm not talking about some small local niche...I'm talking about the fandom as a whole...large and small groups, local, non-local, interest based...I've been shunned everywhere...I mean, I don't know if you've been keeping up on the state of my affairs with the fandom, but I can't go on any furry web sites, any furry chat services save anthrochat, any forums, any cons, any local furmeets, anything...

[bluesduck]

Luddy: You know, you really got me thinking this morning.

We've got this horrible fandom on the table and it's our damn home, but what are we going to *DO* about it? And I realized that there's a problem with the way you're talking here. The way you speak betrays helplessness (like you're on a "sinking island" and there's "nothing ya can do"). I disdain such a mentality.

Take a breath with some conviction--Pull yourself back together--Have some fire in your belly, damn you! You can't even help yourself with that attitude.

[polyhead]

What to do is fairly simple. Keep speaking the truth. Don't bitch, fix it.

FA sucks, no big deal, we can one up it with software already made available. Opensource software is the answer, and some nice little dns and apache tricks to spread the load across willing donators of bandwidth.

[dragonkind]

TL;DR

emo fag.

etc, etc.

er, just...go be yourself. if the only reason you like someone or go somewhere is because you feel you have to, you're doing it wrong.

[cribolouf]

lolwut?

[polyhead]

I've felt the same way. That said, I'm sticking around to be that thorn in their side. I've even just started doing nothing but openly attack everyone. It's fun to watch all these little hypersensitive fucktards squirm.