For gmalivuk
For Gerg, and for those of you who don't read my other, more current blog (twoofsixthousand.blogspot.com)...
After our camping trip to Olympic National Park over Memorial Day and having recently made big decisions about our lives (going to law school, going to Yale for my PhD) we decided to take our relationship to the next level. Since I am a staunch feminist and read way too much feminist stuff, I was really worried about the implications of marriage - not so much for our relationship, but for what it meant to buy into a patriarchal and heteronormative system. I read a good book that dealt with a lot of my issues (I do but I don't, by Kamy Wicoff). Especially important to me (and Aaron too) was that our engagement be equal. So, we went to a local jewelry store and ordered two rings. Mine is a simple white gold band with a moissanite stone set almost flush with the band. His is a palladium band. Then, on a recent hiking trip, we proposed to each other.
We're really happy, and I'm feeling much better about the whole marriage thing. We're just going to have to be very open and intentional in the whole process.
Since it turns out my income doesn't affect his loans too much, we're thinking of getting married next August (rather than waiting until he graduates and I'm in candidacy). We'll still be in different places, which might strike some people as kind of weird. I'm actually kind of glad, because I think it says a lot about us - we're independent people who are not going to ask the other to postpone their dreams; our wedding is about celebrating our committment rather than a license to live together, grow up, or get a bunch of kitchen crap; we love our friends and family and want to join everyone together as soon as possible. Not that other weddings aren't about those things. I think having dated for almost six years (by next August) and still having to live apart for two after the wedding means we're doing it for the right reasons.
So get ready for an awesome party, because we throw awesome parties.
After our camping trip to Olympic National Park over Memorial Day and having recently made big decisions about our lives (going to law school, going to Yale for my PhD) we decided to take our relationship to the next level. Since I am a staunch feminist and read way too much feminist stuff, I was really worried about the implications of marriage - not so much for our relationship, but for what it meant to buy into a patriarchal and heteronormative system. I read a good book that dealt with a lot of my issues (I do but I don't, by Kamy Wicoff). Especially important to me (and Aaron too) was that our engagement be equal. So, we went to a local jewelry store and ordered two rings. Mine is a simple white gold band with a moissanite stone set almost flush with the band. His is a palladium band. Then, on a recent hiking trip, we proposed to each other.
We're really happy, and I'm feeling much better about the whole marriage thing. We're just going to have to be very open and intentional in the whole process.
Since it turns out my income doesn't affect his loans too much, we're thinking of getting married next August (rather than waiting until he graduates and I'm in candidacy). We'll still be in different places, which might strike some people as kind of weird. I'm actually kind of glad, because I think it says a lot about us - we're independent people who are not going to ask the other to postpone their dreams; our wedding is about celebrating our committment rather than a license to live together, grow up, or get a bunch of kitchen crap; we love our friends and family and want to join everyone together as soon as possible. Not that other weddings aren't about those things. I think having dated for almost six years (by next August) and still having to live apart for two after the wedding means we're doing it for the right reasons.
So get ready for an awesome party, because we throw awesome parties.