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[cris]

The empty parts of the apartment echo when doors are left open, as they have been when the landlords are showing the place. I wonder what they say when explaining why it's going to be vacant again, what they know and what they speculate. We told them what we've told most people who aren't friends and who have only known us in passing. We're

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[dancer]

"Now, I'm left to wonder -- if this is not enough, then what is? What should I hope for? What should I seek

[badriyaz]

I completely agree with what dancer has said. To add to the trite, you can't know what 'it' is until you know who 'you' are, or have some idea anyway of what really you want.

You may never find everything that matters to you in a relationship. But there may be enough other good things in it that you are willing to let go of the importance of those other things. Or not. The only way to figure it out is by experience.

[pyrric]

100% agree with the above. I met unsound at a time in my life when I was totally convinced that another serious, committed romantic relationship simply wasn't in the cards for my life. I'd made my peace with that, and planned to use all that energy to be the best nurse possible for my patients.

Whoops. ;-)

[_perihelion_]

distraction has been the watchword. I have no idea if we've succeeded but we do try.

as for the universe providing POV . . . I'm not a big proponent of that idea. in my experience the universe is pretty selfish and works diligently at providing what it needs for itself. we don't enter into it unless there is some compelling need for us to get what we need or desire along the way.

however, what I do have faith in is you. you're intelligent, preceptive, experienced, informed and adventurous. and, just as important, you are not yet jaded by the vicissitudes of life. screw the universe its agenda, that's what I'll choose to believe in. people.

[brigid]

what he said.

[mishak]

if this is not enough, then what is? What should I hope for? What should I seek?Those questions have haunted me in every relationship I’ve ever had. Perhaps “haunted” is too strong a word, more like always being aware of those questions, and what they mean for my life and my choices. Even now, my relationship with Couplingchaos, knowing that we both want to spend the rest of our lives together, I have this awareness of those questions. If they are uncertainties or misgivings about marriage and the future and commitment, I don’t think it bodes ill for our future, because uncertainties and misgivings are part of being human. What matters is not that fact that I have those doubts, but in how I handle them. If I look around at the reality of my friends who have been married and are now divorced, I know that all of them were just as much in love with and committed to their partners as Couplingchaos and me, perhaps with less doubts/uncertainties than I have, but, in spite of everything, their relationships ended. I don’t really know