Love sucks like that. Even if you love her so much, it always comes to a war between head and heart.
From personal experience, if you love someone so much, you would do something hard to let them be happy. Even if that means ending it for the sake of her. (Not that i'm suggesting this, its just true)
Follow your heart and you can't go wrong. Even if it doesn't end up working the way you originally thought. Just know that you're doing what you believe is best at the time.
You need to talk to someone who knows about this stuff... not like I know any, dammit all.
But I think I can safely say that no you're not a bad boyfriend, no you're not a bad person, but that you very well MAY not be what she wants. If that were the case it would be no fault of yours, but I would think she'd have said something by now if it were. As unpleasant as it is, it's a possibilty... the other person is red, and you love red and give red in return, but what the other person really wants is blue.
I do have to disagree that love is only about sacrifice, mostly it's about cherishing and truly enjoying being with another person. There is no need to give up comforts if being with them is comfort enough. You do not need to deny yourself anything, ideally. You're too hard on yourself, I think, lighten up and enjoy your time with her. Don't think so much, or if you have to think, focus on the good parts. Try that for a while and see if you have any success, from what I can tell it's a very Zen thing.
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From personal experience, if you love someone so much, you would do something hard to let them be happy. Even if that means ending it for the sake of her. (Not that i'm suggesting this, its just true)
Hard facts of life.
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Follow your heart and you can't go wrong. Even if it doesn't end up working the way you originally thought. Just know that you're doing what you believe is best at the time.
I'm sorry you're so unhappy.
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But I think I can safely say that no you're not a bad boyfriend, no you're not a bad person, but that you very well MAY not be what she wants. If that were the case it would be no fault of yours, but I would think she'd have said something by now if it were. As unpleasant as it is, it's a possibilty... the other person is red, and you love red and give red in return, but what the other person really wants is blue.
I do have to disagree that love is only about sacrifice, mostly it's about cherishing and truly enjoying being with another person. There is no need to give up comforts if being with them is comfort enough. You do not need to deny yourself anything, ideally. You're too hard on yourself, I think, lighten up and enjoy your time with her. Don't think so much, or if you have to think, focus on the good parts. Try that for a while and see if you have any success, from what I can tell it's a very Zen thing.
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