Comments | crysanthemum: 20 questions........maybe less

crysanthemum

20 questions........maybe less

Sep 28, 2005 14:57

I so often feel used and controlled by people, like they feel that they can because I don't know how to say no, stop it. I so often want to say "go away i don't want to talk to you ever again",but do I do it,no because ultimately i am afraid of hurting them and being perceived as a mean person. What is this innate need to make everyone happy, and ( Read more... )

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canadianjo September 29 2005, 04:29:49 UTC

Being assertive is better than getting walked over. Trust me I did it for too long. I let too many people shove me around for too long and now I don't take crap from anyone. You are a strong woman and you need to do what is best for you! If people can't understand that...too bad for them. I still love you even if you do put your foot down!!

crysanthemum September 29 2005, 04:50:12 UTC

Thanks girl!! I needed to hear that. I love you too:)

aevia September 29 2005, 05:37:00 UTC

" I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone

Cuddle Buddy I HEART YOU and need to see you, like um NOW!!! Whose knee caps do I need to break when I get there?

crysanthemum September 29 2005, 22:53:03 UTC

I love my cuddle buddy and I need to see you too!!! I miss you so much that I am tearing up just thinking about it. I wish you were here with me, or better yet, that I was there, away from all the drama. I love you!!!!

Panda canadianjo September 29 2005, 19:56:55 UTC

You can actually see the panda through a live feed from the zoo on the Sandiego Zoo website. http://www.sandiegozoo.org/zoo/ex_panda_station.html check it out!

Manda

Re: Panda crysanthemum September 29 2005, 21:11:22 UTC

Thanks!!! I went there and it was awesome:) Yay for cute pandas! Love ya:)

kissykrissy October 1 2005, 14:07:18 UTC

Katie,
I went through this same thing. It's natural to want to be liked. What's not natural is being walked on. There's a fine line, and sometimes it's hard to spot. You said that now that you're putting your foot down, people are calling you manipulative. Well, then those people really don't know you that well, do they? The Katie I know has a heart of gold, and if they refuse to see that because they are not getting their way, then they need to go back to preschool (in a class you don't teach!). Just ignore, and know that no matter what you do, there will be people that will find fault because they are not happy themselves.
Love ya!
Kristen