One year later - day of devastation to present

[crystalrmartin]

It's been exactly one year tonight since my personal life fell apart. Today it has hit hard, realizing that a year has slipped by. There has been beautiful moments filled with caring wonderful people, and moments when I really had to fight  to go on. There are moments I feel so alone, trapped in a living nightmare.(these are fewer, but still happen

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[elthionesse]

I think that you've been very brave, and I definitely wanted to take this opportunity to say so. I haven't felt freely able to speak with you in months while having your daughter in class, when literally every smallest and most insignificant thing I said in class or out (including compliments on your daughter's classwork and things as innocuous as lesson design) was cause for your ex to go down to the school and complain about me. If I'd said to you, "Your daughter is getting an A," and you'd innocently said, "I hear you're doing well in school," to your daughter, it would have come back that I was trying to get your daughter to move back in with you, or saying things that were negative about your ex, or God-knows-what. I just didn't dare say anything at all...I didn't really want to burden you with it, either

[crystalrmartin]

Well here is the interesting thing. I don't think the ex is aware that I know you or you know me. Caitlin may know, but I am not sure.

Actually in I think Nov. my counselor advised me and I went to the school and met with Caitlin's counselor. Would you believe they didn't even know I existed. He didn't list me as an emergency contact or anything.

You should have seen the counselor's face when I introduced my self as Caitlin's mother. Now the school sends me her grades. But Caitlin and the ex aren't aware of that to my knowledge. Sadly they have brain-washed her into thinking horribly of me. *shrugging* There isn't much I can do but love her from afar and pray for her nightly which I do.

Thank you, Your words really mean a lot. :)

[elthionesse]

Oh, he knows. On the very first day of school, Caitlin told me that she was your daughter. I didn't know at the time that she wasn't living with you...it's not that odd for kids to be choiced in from across the river. Shortly after the beginning of the year, I made some comment about how I could tell she understood plot structure, it must help to have a writer for a mother...just trying to be nice (though it was true, she did know linear plot structure well). Anywho, then at parent conferences he and his gf came in and sat down and immediately started yelling at me--I didn't even know who he was at first, I hadn't met him before--telling me that they didn't want me talking to you about Caitlin and how uncomfortable it was making your daughter and on and on. That's when I found out she was living with them instead of you...I couldn't say anything to them or her that was right. I said, "Oh, you have custody?" and they said something about you contesting it (god knows), and I said, "Well, since you have custody for now, I'll make

[februaryfour]

[Edit: WHOOPS. Sorry, I was just butting in to say that. I'll be on my way now.]

Wow. He sounds like a class act and reminds me of my ex. Good lord. *hugs Crystal* You are well rid of that man, dear. I just hope your daughter comes through all right.

[februaryfour]

*hugs you tightly* Always here for you. Always.

[crystalrmartin]

*snuggles* TY :)