Comments | cuddlewhore22: Oh, the drama

cuddlewhore22

Oh, the drama

Jul 07, 2006 22:16

Do you ever have one of those days where you just resent the fact that you have to be near other people? I'm having one of those days today. It seems that everywhere I go, I am being sucked into other people's drama, and somehow, I become a part of the whole thing. Why is it that people are like that? If you ask me, when you're upset, you should go ( Read more... )

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Perhaps anonymous July 8 2006, 03:05:31 UTC

If you ask me, when you're upset, you should go hide in your house and not spread around your craziness. that may be so to you, since you are an introvert, however, for those of us who desire human contact, sharing whatever news we have with friends and companions is helpful. maybe you should get over yourself and learn to communicate with anyone who will listen, because believe me, the older you get- the less chances you have to make meaningful conversation. Be it with your best friend or a random person on the street who just might happen to empathize with you.

Re: Perhaps cuddlewhore22 July 8 2006, 13:33:51 UTC

"Hyperbole: A figure of speech in which exaggeration is used for emphasis or effect." Yeah. I was just kidding. My problem, Random Person, is not a lack of communication, but a surplus of it. And if you know me well enough to comment on my journal, then you'd know that empathy is not a feeling that I lack in the slightest. I have what some may consider a guilt complex from so much flippin' empathy. Two other things: 1) Empathy, for me, necessitates an actual problem. You know, a break-up, or a fight, or a child who'll have autism for their whole life. In my experience, a LOT of people (such as the ones I referred to yesterday) look for empathy for problems that they themselves have created or problems that only they see as problems in the first place. Just because it's a meaningful conversation with someone, especially a random someone, doesn't make it worth the aggravation caused by the situation as a whole. I am in no way that starved for social contact. If you are one of those drama-ful people, then I say that YOU should get over ( ... )

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qsical July 8 2006, 04:17:09 UTC

Seriously. What's with the bitter-sounding reply to a frustrated entry? She never said she couldn't communicate. Quite the opposite, really, if she's getting drug into too many people's problems. I'm slightly confused...

cuddlewhore22 July 8 2006, 13:14:12 UTC

A few things: I think it's funny/ironic that there's controversy over my "no drama" post that I wrote when I was very tired and very frustrated. I had no idea when I wrote it that there was anything at all to comment on. :) Also, who knew that random people read my LJ? Clearly, I am not that interesting, even for people who actually know me!

PS~ Thanks, you two, for rushing to my defense. :)

duckssaymip July 8 2006, 05:13:07 UTC

Eh, my feeling is that sometimes you need to talk about it, sometimes you shouldn't. My problem is that I am a big, loud man, and therefore, when I have something to say, it gets said, regardless of whether it's a "need to talk about it" or "shouldn't talk about it" moment. Ahhhh the merits of being a big, loud man :)

cuddlewhore22 July 8 2006, 13:16:05 UTC

Ya know, Mike, you are a close friend and I've known you for many long years. If you have a problem, talk away, Big Loud Man. I know you well enough to know that any thing that is upsetting you is big enough to upset me as well. And even if it isn't, since I care about you, I care about the problem. So there ya go. :)

cuddlewhore22 July 8 2006, 18:35:57 UTC

Happy birthday, too. :)

duckssaymip July 9 2006, 03:31:33 UTC

Thank you for the birthday wishes :) It was the kind of day that could have been a total train wreck and came out being really chill and really fun, so I can't complain. Yeah, being a BLM (LOL) isn't such a bad thing... People pretty much know where you stand on everything, which is pretty sweet :) Thanks for the assurances that I've got good taste in deciding what's bothersome.... You know, sometimes BLMs worry about that kind of a thing. They say, "You know, am I the only one bothered by the existence of pigeons?" It's reassuring :) Ok, time to go back to being slightly buzzed and celebratory.... Cheers! *clicks glass*

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firstlight1 July 10 2006, 07:54:22 UTC

To start with, anonymous comments piss me off. I mean, if it's someone that I've never met or heard of, that's fine that you're reading my journal and talking to me. But at least have the guts to put your name to it or even to say, "Hey, you don't know me from Adam, but I'm so-and-so and I think blahblah about such and such." The trouble with anonymous comments is that they're generally from people that you do know (and who, for some reason, think they've got you pinned) who are trying to be righteous and put you down. But really, they don't have the nerve to own up to their (generally incorrect) opinions. As my friend Alex used to say, "Your ego is only outweighed by your mediocrity ( ... )