hmmm

[curious_kitti]

are people who don't have kids selfish? (this is of course assuming they don't have them and don't want them.) Just a thought that crossed my mind.

Comments

my thoughts on your thought ;)

[cleovale]

maybe.. maybe not. depends upon the person.

and who says selfishness is Always a bad thing? Someone who Knows they are too selfish to have children (as I said I was for many years. something just changed) is more kind than someone who ignores their selfishness and has a child anyway, to the detriment of said child.

just my rambling thoughts ;)

[persephone18]

No, I don't think so. There are a number of reasons people don't have children. Personally, I think it would be cruel for a child to be with parents who don't want him or her. I would hope that an unplanned pregnancy would still result in a loved child if the parents chose to have the child, but there are some sad cases. I had a friend in school whose parents seemed rather nice, but from what she told me they could be quite cruel if they were angry with her. She told me they told her once that they should have aborted her. What a horrible thing to say to their daughter!

Good question, though. I never thought of it that way.

[sirkenandsubg]

I do not think people who chose not to have children are necessarily selfish, I think they are strong to stand for their convictions and not cave in to the pressure society places on them. People who chose not to have children are honest with themselves and their partners. Let's face, it we all know people who should not have children.

It is expected engagement, marriage, house and kids but sometimes it is nice to just be with your partner and share other things in life.

-gee

[catelynn]

Actually I think there are a lot of people who have kids that are being selfish ... they want a kid(s) and it does not matter how not a good idea it is..the women with the octuplets is a good example..

I think doing what you need to do in regards to having kids is just good sense

Thank you

[curious_kitti]

I want to thank everyone who replied and anyone who still might. It was a fleeting thought that crossed my head, and I know there is no wrong or right, it's a person by person basis. I personally at this time feel I don't want kids. I think if I'm lucky enough to find a partner in this life, I want to spend it with them and travel and enjoy life. Who knows, maybe things will change. There are people out there who damage their kids with their selfishness, and others who raise amazing adults with their love. And I'm sure there's people who regret not having children as well as those who still think it was the best decision they ever made. I just thought this would be interesting fooder for a conversation, and thank you, it definitely was/is.