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This isn't my fight. But you have alienated a lot of people with that post, myself included. I'd just like to make a few points:
1) Everyone has secrets. Why do you think Goverments run the way they do? By being honest?
2) From what I've heard, you have been guilty of some things that simply don't withstand in any friendship. I.E. Turning up late to organised things without any notification, blowing people off by saying that you are working when you are not, waiting on other people to organise things and then proceed to say you're lonely, and you too have your opinons of people that you don't exactly broadcast to the world. Maybe not about people in our friend group, I don't know.
3) In life you drift towards like minded people. You are not going to get on with everyone at the same time. Sometimes you can be the best of friends, sometimes you could be enemys, but a true valuable friendship sees past the "secrecy" and the "lies"
4) If you were as transparent as you have led us to believe, then we would have seen this coming, which we didn't.
5) I can see why you might be angry/upset at Sarah and I, but I don't see why you have to take it out on some of your closest friends E.G. Ellen and Lucy. I know its no personal attack on me if you 3 go out for coffee and I'm not invited, because I know that we do still have fun together and we will see each other soon. You learn to compramise and work around each other in friendships. I mean, Sarah's going to be away for my 18th, which is a big deal and really upset me, but I know that she's going to have a wicked time overseas and I will see her in January, which will definitely fly by.
6) Sometimes things are easier to be written than to be said, either in person or even on the phone. I know some of my most meaningful conversations happen over msn, despite the fact its very impersonal. However, if you're completely in tune with other person, you can imagine them saying and completely understand their tone of voice.
7) Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Whether they choose to voice it is their decision. Who they choose to voice it to is also their own opinon. I'm pretty sure at some point or another (particularly in this friend group) some has said something negative about someone else behind their back. To be honest, its quite a female trait.
8) This friend group is ever expanding. However, nowadays, I don't really consider it a group, because we are making our own ways in the world, and "the group" is not going to stay "the group" forever, especially, as it sounds, with you and your uni friends.
9) I'm sure that the fact you live quite away from people makes it difficult to be included, but I mean I have spoken to some people (I'm not going to name names for decencies sake) and it seems as if you dont make the effort to go to as many organised things as others, because they are too far away for you to get to. (Please don't take this point as my personal opinion, it was someone elses)
10) I can't really think of much to say for point number 10. Although we have not known each other altogether too long, we have shared many a good time together, including (as I mentioned previously), our great day at Big Day Out. We have fallen out and I have learnt that people deserve 2nd chances. We've also never been truely close, but I was seem to have the wackiest fun with you, and I do it with the best intent in my heart. If nothing works out for any of us (your so called lying friends) then I do with the best of intent wish you the best and that one day you'll find what you're looking for because it certainly wasn't in any of our friendships.