bleagh

[cvmonkey]

well, my post d&c followup appointment is coming up. how exciting. i'm thinking of trying out mirena. anyone have experience with it, good or bad? we're done with any idea of having a second kid, so i figure birth control for five years would be good for me

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[runwithyou]

know that's not true and it's not easy for lots of other people, but it's like a pregnancy epidemic every time i have a miscarriage

I totally feel the same way. Every time I try to get pregnant, it is like EVERYONE else is instantly pregnant and it takes me ten billion years and then when I do get pregnant, I seem to have a chemical pregnancy before the 'real' thing. It makes me question how much I want a second child.

If you don't mind me asking, what made you decide to only have Finn? I don't know many people with one child and I just need some perspective from them!

[cvmonkey]

i don't mind you asking at all. a lot of people ask, actually. it's sort of hard to explain for me, but i think it started off as just a feeling. as soon as finn was born, i just felt like we were done. and gavin agreed. when we think about all the reasons, it's stuff like:

we can do more with just one child, we'll have more money to provide for finn, we don't want to go through all the newborn stuff again, we sort of love just being a little family of three, there will never be any sibling rivalry or unfair treatment

but really, it just comes down to the feeling, i guess. it seems like our family is complete with just three. and i had that month where suddenly i really wanted a second child, and we got pregnant right away, and then i remembered all the reasons i had only wanted one and thinking of giving up my one on one time with finn was terrifying and sad to me, and i just freaked out. so i think one is probably best for us, but i can't say i won't ever change my mind again!

[runwithyou]

That makes so much sense. I really, really go back and forth which is why I always wonder what makes people want one or more then one, you know? Trevor is an only child and I have two siblings so it is two totally different worlds.

I always think of the money issue and doing more with just one kid and I wonder how much I want to be pregnant again or go back to the newborn days... and yes, I think about giving up the one-on-one time and I don't know if I WANT to give it up...

I feel like we may have one more and then be done. I used to want three or four kids but I really don't think I do any more.

Thanks. :)