You can hear me, but are you listening to me?

[cyclone76]

For the person who hears the problem:

An unwarranted advice is considered a nag.
Not everybody wants your advice when they grouse.
This is something i always forget.
I damn kaypoh.

Sometimes we just need to vent.
Sometimes we just need someone to acknowledge that we have similar worries and problems.
Sometimes, we just do not want to be told that we are

Comments

[runecircle]

I'd say that if the person talks about it, he should expect to hear what people have to say to him in return.

Venting your troubles is burdening someone with your drama. The only time it's OK is when you paid for it.

Just my two cents.

[ifagotto]

I think giving the correct advice is helping. You can't possible only say what the other person wants to hear coz that would create more problems later, it's kinda like egging people on to make the wrong decisions that they regret later.

If they need their bum kicked, kick it. If they reject the kick, as XW's goddaddy once told me - at the end of it, if they chose not to 'hear' what friends are saying, it's up to them liao.

[cyclone76]

XW's goddaddy sounds like a great man. I would like to meet this great man =p

[hsk_chip]

sometimes the "complaining" party just wants his/her feelings to be validated and acknowledged... ie to be understood :)