I typically issue a disclaimer when providing any "parenting" advice as I think we do miss out by not having the practical parenting perspective; however, "outsiders" do have a unique perspective to the particular situation and I would think the parents should at least hear you out.
That being said, isn't he a new parent? Disregard if he has 15 years of parenting experience, but you're had plenty of firsthand experience with Em and other kids so you may have some valuable insight to provide.
Sounds like BIL needs to pull his head out of his ass.
I agree that you gain far more insight from having a child, as you will be around that child 24/7 (typically). But does a woman who has a nanny watch their child during that time while she gets her hair and nails done have more experience than the childless nanny? And the problem I had wasn't about parenting, rather about how tacky his choice of chastising Em was. Like, did you have to do it for THAT long, THAT loudly? It was awfully close to the house (in the garage
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You don't have to have children to understand when someone is being an ass to one. Sounds like he didn't appreciate being called on it so he continued to be an ass.
He didn't like being called out in front of my niece that thinks the world of me. I literally shit gold in her eyes. So when I call him out, she doesn't think "Oh, M is just being too hard and making people uncomfortable." She thinks "M is wrong and should never tell me what to do. I do not have to listen to him." So, I did it in a tacky fashion that weakened his base as stepfather. This I understand and will apologize for
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Sorry to invade another comment thread, but I must agree. My sister-in-law is similar with her emotions, though her disciplinary actions aren't nearly as bad. Our stepfather's influence on my sister and I, however, was great; I learned a lot from it, personally, and think she did as well, but at the time... several hours of the frustrated lecturing, the talking, the welling up to anger or neutrality, and violent hand gestures - everything could have been so much worth complaining about, yeah, so I'm not complaining - but it was certainly in interesting influence, I say.
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That being said, isn't he a new parent? Disregard if he has 15 years of parenting experience, but you're had plenty of firsthand experience with Em and other kids so you may have some valuable insight to provide.
Sounds like BIL needs to pull his head out of his ass.
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