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[da_pimpmasta]

Do you think that in a relationship, either partner has the right to tell the other what friends they can or can't have? Or what the extent of their interactions with those friends can and can't be? To forbid the other partner to do things, non-sexual and non-romantic things, that they would normally do as part of their every day life, i.e. hang

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[knaveofhearts]

Everyone in a relationship has this power but it exists no further than the other party in the relationship permits them to use it. Veto power is what we call it in my relationships. "If you do not [x], I will no longer be your partner." is the most common way that it is expressed. It's the nuclear option of relationship conflict resolution -- you have to mean it and you have to be able to handle your bluff being called, but within those constraints it is the most effective tool for dealing with this level of conflict.

I find your phrase "if such demands were wrong" to be interesting, but I can't quite express why.

[lynxcat]

Do you think that in a relationship, either partner has the right to tell the other what friends they can or can't have?

No.

[mariussilverwlf]

Need. More. Input.

I, for one, find it interesting that you list "cuddle" as a friendly activity. A hug, one, while saying hello or goodbye, is standard friendly material way out here in Ye Land O' East Coast, but a cuddle is a lengthy portion of contact usually carrying flirtatious or sexual overtones. That activity, in my mind, should be reserved for the significant other once the relationship has been deemed mutually serious.

Everything in a balanced and stable relationship will involve compromise, much of it subconscious. I rarely have time out with friends -- what few I have, anyway -- without my wife around for the very simple reason that we're both friends with all the same people and I enjoy her company. I can, and do, have time with friend without her from time to time, yes, but since the birth of our son I have little time for much of anything that does not involve caring for him.

It's a tricky thing, this game called life. I think I have two power-ups and a continue, but I'm not sure.

[da_pimpmasta]

I find a cuddle to be a source of comfort, physically and emotionally; my need for touch is intense and undeniable. 9/10 times, if I cuddle with someone there is nothing involved but the comfort caused by the close physical presence of one I hold dear. There's rarely flirtation or sexuality involved; it's puppy-piling, essentially.

[mariussilverwlf]

Understand you're not falling into the norm on that one, though that should come as no surprise, mom frer. You've never been one to conform, and I mean that in the best of ways. Your independence and individuality is remarkably refreshing

[atlanticat]

First Paragraph: No

[kasheesty]

Why do you ask?