Comments | dads_skrink: I am blocked

dads_skrink

I am blocked

Nov 18, 2009 10:19

Being blocked is an interesting phenomenon. It shouldn't bother me, but I think it does on some level ( Read more... )

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sachem_head November 18 2009, 19:36:19 UTC

The Internet is a strange place -- how we perceive it and how we behave on it. I still haven't joined FB, although I think about it from time to time. But to be blocked on FB from the mother of your grandchildren -- it is bizarre. But it's bizarre to have this alternate virtual forum to conduct personal relationships. And her response -- that your looking on FB is somehow an end run around personal contact -- is bizarre, given her seeming closed stance toward personal contact. To have this place where these feuds are conducted or precipitated, where you can be blocked or "de-friended" -- it seems to belie the promise of the internet, how we can be connected and see past distances or estrangements.

Anyway, I'm sorry to hear this. It must be tough for you.

panoramicgreen November 19 2009, 00:22:54 UTC

I got into a terrible fight with my Dad last year, and so I de-friended his wife. Because I wanted to be able to complain about my Dad, and talk about how upset I was, without her (and then him) seeing it. So it is an odd social place.

I wouldn't want my parents or grandparents on there, but I also have a very small friends list generally: only thirty-odd people, and I don't like to add new people. So maybe I'm not doing Facebook right.

But it is very, very odd that she would use FB to message you, so passive-aggressive and immediate.

panoramicgreen November 19 2009, 00:26:03 UTC

PS: I since re-friended Beth! I'm not so cold-hearted-- I felt bad about it, especially since M. was still her friend.

We had a discussion this morning redbaydreamer November 19 2009, 18:18:59 UTC

My knitting group talked about this sort of controlling person this morning. One of the girls has a mother-in-law who does this, pitting her son against his wife, or trying to anyway. I think the sad thing is that no matter what this girl did or didn't do it has just gotten worse and more behind the back shenanigans go on all the time. The mother-in-law is 90 and the girl has been married for 40+ years. Knowing that it is a sickness that for whatever reason the person is getting no treatment, does not help those of us dealing with being the target (or whatever you might call it) any. This girl says she only goes with her husband once a year to visit this mother-in-law. I am not sure I would do even that, why put yourself in the position to take all that abuse. You all are in my prayers.