I went to Florida last week. It sounds odd to say that, given my normal mundane, housewife life, but I did, I went to Florida for my conference and now I'm back
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First, awesome how your trip travel turned out, it sounds like. :)
Second, it's got to be tough to be in a position where you feel you can help someone (or keep helping them, in your case), but that they Do Not Want Your Advice Thankyouverymuch. My little brother, who by all accounts is no dummy, would get irate if you asked about his back-up plan for some mildly risky ideas and demand why you didn't believe in him, support him, etc. Just hearing that they might need a back-up plan can get people all out of joint, including Craig in a big way. To me, it's just being responsible, reasonable, practical, pragmatic, etc. - not betting on failure in any way. But, there's really no getting past their inability to hear it as anything other than criticism in my experience. I hope it goes as well as it can, but I'm also glad for you to get your house back.
The money thing annoys me. It's not my money and I don't even know this woman but when people live so close to their means and waste money they get buying frivolous things, it makes me twitchy. She has two kids to take care of and instead of putting that money away to help her get through the obvious tough times that are ahead of her, she blew it on non-necessities. You know why? People will bail out a single mother with two children. People will take pity on them and make sure they have a place to stay and don't starve. Plus, her kids will like her more for the fun stuff than the putting food on the table part. She isn't worried about how to pay the next set of bills she gets; she's worried about whether her kids like her or not. Ugh. I could rant about this behavior all day. ALL day. I'm sure I have before. I'm sure you've heard it before. AHHHHHHH
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Second, it's got to be tough to be in a position where you feel you can help someone (or keep helping them, in your case), but that they Do Not Want Your Advice Thankyouverymuch. My little brother, who by all accounts is no dummy, would get irate if you asked about his back-up plan for some mildly risky ideas and demand why you didn't believe in him, support him, etc. Just hearing that they might need a back-up plan can get people all out of joint, including Craig in a big way. To me, it's just being responsible, reasonable, practical, pragmatic, etc. - not betting on failure in any way. But, there's really no getting past their inability to hear it as anything other than criticism in my experience. I hope it goes as well as it can, but I'm also glad for you to get your house back.
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