Comments | daicerio_blue: Lost Boys

daicerio_blue

Lost Boys

Oct 26, 2006 16:56

I called my dad last night to wish him a happy birthday, which would have been a thoughtful thing to do if his birthday hadn't been on Tuesday. He was glad to hear from me anyway, but it was an asshole move on my part. It would be nice if I could say that I only rarely do this to the people I love, but that's not true.
( Here be introspective ramblings )

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fatalis_sanguis October 26 2006, 19:07:10 UTC

I know how you feel.

daicerio_blue October 27 2006, 16:06:12 UTC

Good to know I'm not the only one.

ex_maehymn October 26 2006, 19:38:29 UTC

I am so bad at buying gifts for people that Christmas and birthdays tend to make me want to run and hide, so I know exactly how you feel.

It's really hard to manage all that stuff, especially for the non-linear.

I try to do as much as I can for people on a daily basis to show them that I care. Like paying bills--paying into the love & care funds. I'm not very good at that either yet, but I figure that way, more ground is covered than not, and they are more understanding about the random gift timeline that seems to happen.

daicerio_blue October 27 2006, 17:12:59 UTC

"...especially for the non-linear."

Exactly. The habits don't seem to build as easily. It's a bit like low-grade insanity at times.

Dad's a mechanical engineer by trade and very linear. We'll frequently have long, polite arguments that end with us discovering that we've been arguing the same point in mutually incomprehensible language. Hilarity ensues.

Your system is a good one. Over time, I think people tend to get it.

caravaggia October 27 2006, 14:17:09 UTC

I'll help when I can...

daicerio_blue October 27 2006, 17:31:35 UTC

Thanks. Reminders are good. :)

too similar an experience. exponential October 27 2006, 16:15:40 UTC

My mom's birthday was on Tuesday. I called her yesterday as well. My excuse? I was in New York City. And then I said, "But that was no excuse ( ... )

Re: too similar an experience. daicerio_blue October 27 2006, 19:00:19 UTC

I think pretty much everyone is operating under the fake-it-'til-you-make-it principle where being an adult is concerned. Even people who seem very succesful and put-together have the same human frailties.

I don't really expect anyone but my family and Kristel to call me on my birthday, and that's not even required for my happiness. Friends may or may not, but it's not a big deal if they don't.