When it comes to love I've done many things wrong, mainly because I didn't know how to get over myself... but anyway, I now believe that love and romantic love can be quite separate. I love my friends, my exes, and want them to be utterly happy. I don't want them to not be part of my life, but sometimes I realise this is for the best. It frustrates me when I've sabotaged a relationship to the extent that I can't see someone anymore. I think it's because I love, or appear to like someone too much...
Love is such an overused word as you say. I just deleted it from my list of interests because I don't know what it means. What I do know is how much it hurts when you know someone has lost their love for you.
If I am with other people too long, I just need to be by myself.
I don't think that's a problem at all, it's just about the definition of introversion, and that's perfectly normal. I'm like that too.
For example, would it be normal if you love somebody to want them to find happiness, regardless of who it's with?
I think if you truly love someone, then yes, you'll want them to be happy even if that means not being with you. However, most people also feel an entirely separate feeling of wanting that person to be with them, and pain that they're not, which can counteract the first feeling. But from my experience those are two separate feelings, and if you love someone enough you can let the first one triumph, no matter how much it hurts.
Hmm, sensible thoughts. It's true after awhile (for the most part) for me, after the pain passes, you just want exes to be happy. Right after a painful break-up, or while in a relationship, it's easier to think of someone being miserable without you than happy with somebody else...which worries me a bit, it feels very uncharitable and selfish. But slightly comforting is that feeling, as the song says, that you yourself would rather be lonely than happy with somebody else... Again, that feeling passes relatively quickly too. And I personally only have really uncharitable wishes for one ex...no prizes for guessing which one! Hehe ;-)
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Love is such an overused word as you say. I just deleted it from my list of interests because I don't know what it means. What I do know is how much it hurts when you know someone has lost their love for you.
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I don't think that's a problem at all, it's just about the definition of introversion, and that's perfectly normal. I'm like that too.
For example, would it be normal if you love somebody to want them to find happiness, regardless of who it's with?
I think if you truly love someone, then yes, you'll want them to be happy even if that means not being with you. However, most people also feel an entirely separate feeling of wanting that person to be with them, and pain that they're not, which can counteract the first feeling. But from my experience those are two separate feelings, and if you love someone enough you can let the first one triumph, no matter how much it hurts.
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