Prejudice works both ways
for your information, my brother never spent more than a week at our place. he spent only two nights and you knew he was locked out of his apartment. i dont see a reason why my family and friends could not come over. if you had a problem with my friends, you should have said something. i have a right to the place just as much as you do. the only reason i moved the tv into the common area is because laurette gave her tv to someone who needed it and if i was only shareing the tv with her. i also told you you were welcome to use the television however you wished to use it. it was not just for my own specific uses. if i remember correctly, you never asked any of us if it was ok for your "male friend" to spend the night either and he was there a couple of times. did you not think that we thought he was strange as well. We discussed whether we should approach you about it or not, but we concluded that since its also your place, you were welcome to bring as many strange guys to spe!
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the night with you as often as you like. did you not think it was disrespectful to us that you would bring a stranger over and not say anything about it. in addition i never had the tv on late since i am usually asleep by 11pm and not a big fan of television. I'm up late only when i need to study or if i had company. you are clearly mistaking me with laurette, because i have approached her a couple of times about the television being on all night both for my sake and yours. i also explained to her that the walls were thin and she needs to keep the volume to a minimum. you act as if you never caused trouble. i sincerely believe that if my friends were not black you would have never felt that your life were in danger. im tired of all you racist folks. i saw your facial expression as soon as you first walked in the door and i knew you were going to give me problems.i will gladly send you a copy of all the bills. if you paid a bill that ranged from december i will gladly give y!
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the money back. it was probably my mistake. i was not in the apartment in december, so i would not know who was there. im a very sincere person and you could have approached me with any thing that you thought was wrong or offending.i would not have taken it personally. you are dealing with things in a very immature way. we are all adults. but like i said, you will have to pay last months bill since you were in the apartment during that period. that bill is not even the complete months bill. it is only the bill for up to when i moved out since i closed the account that was under my name, but you and laurette will have to deal with the rest of it on your own.if you still believe that you should get some money back for the first bill, then i will gladly give it back to you. all i need from you is the exact date you moved in and i will calculate it from there. that is not a problem. i just find it interesting that you thought i made your semester in the apartment a living hell!
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and i did not get that impression. i always stayed out of your way after i saw that you were uncomfortable around me. anyways, i have no problem with you. you can foward me your address.
P.S. I dont appreciate this email you sent. it makes you look like a bitch. and i know that you are not. so you need to stop that. the least you could do is approach me in the same respectful manner that i haved approached you. i know your parents thought you better than that.
---- Original message ----
>Date: Sun, 8 Jun 2008 00:42:21 -0500 (CDT)
>From: ME
>Subject: Re: Regarding Bills
>To: HER
>
>Seri;
>
>The initial bill that you were asking money for clearly showed that the reading ran from December to January. I did not move in until the middle of January, so I feel I should not be responsible for that portion of the bill.
>
>Further more, you have given me plenty of trouble. You have caused undue amounts of stress by inviting strange guys over at strange hours on school nights and making an excessive amount of noise. You moved the TV into the common room without first consulting with me, and then proceeded to watch it into odd hours of the night with the volume at an excessive level. The above made me afraid to be home, and when I was it prevented me from getting the sleep I require. You also invited your brother to stay over for an excess of a week, which is clearly against the lease, and rude to do without consulting me first. These are only a few things that you did that were incredibly inconsiderate.
>
>You had a roommmate, and you completely disrespected that. You took every advantage you could of my kind nature. You made my first semester here a living hell.
>
>I never want to hear from or see you again, and the sooner that happens, the better. However, I will not let you take advantage of me. Since you already have my address, you may send me the bills. I will expect every single one from December on. I will need them in the mail by Thursday of this week so I may retrieve them this coming weekend.
>
>Apart from that, I want you to leave me alone. I believe you have already caused me enough trouble. Do not expect me to continue allowing this.
>
>-ME
>
>
>---- Original message ----
>>Date: Fri, 6 Jun 2008 23:22:09 -0500 (CDT)
>>From: HER
>>Subject: Re: Regarding Bills
>>To: ME
>>
>>we never charged you for december. the december bill was given to georgette, the previous roomate. and capstone never gave your number to anyone, your number is freely available on the school site. again you were never charged for december. the bill that you paid when u first moved in was starting from mid jan. which by then, you had already moved in. i would be glad to show you that bill,because i saved everything. however, you will still be paying for this bill that is due, because you also were in that building. if you like, you can seek legal action. ive never given you any trouble, so i suggest you dont give me any
>>
>>---- Original message ----
>>>Date: Fri, 6 Jun 2008 11:10:17 -0500 (CDT)
>>>From: ME
>>>Subject: Re: Regarding Bills
>>>To: HER
>>>
>>>Seri;
>>>
>>>When I moved in, you charged me for the month of December in which I neither
>>>resided nor had a lease with Capstone Quarters. The amount was more than
>>>$50, which should more than cover the utilities for April and May. If you still
>>>feel the need to receive money for April and May then I will require a refund
>>>for that the month of December AND the part of January of which I was not
>>>living nor had a lease with Capstone Quarters. If you feel this is a mistake, then
>>>I will require an audit of all the bills since December so this may be sorted out.
>>>If that is the case, I will leave you my address which is ONLY to be used for the
>>>purpose of forwarding the bills. Any other use of my address will constitute
>>>harassment, and I will pursue legal action. I also request that you not contact
>>>me by phone, which Capstone has seemed to illegally provide you.
>>>
>>>On that note, I feel as though you should have talked to me about this before I
>>>moved out. When I moved in there was never a discussion about utilities or
>>>how they should be handled. It is going to be much more difficult to resolve,
>>>now.
>>>
>>>-ME
>>>
>>>---- Original message ----
>>>>Date: Thu, 5 Jun 2008 18:26:19 -0500 (CDT)
>>>>From: HER
>>>>Subject: Regarding Bills
>>>>To: ME
>>>>
>>>>Hey Jenny,
>>>> This is seyi, your previous roommate at capstone. there is a bill due
>>>tommorow that covers april and early may. i need your third of the bill inorder
>>>to pay the full amount. give me a call. my number is XXX-XXX-XXXX
>>>
>>>
I have two really big problems:
1) They should have approached me about this before I moved out (they had ample opportunity to).
2) Racism is a pretty loaded term to be throwing around. I have no idea what "look on the face" she's talking about. When I first moved in I approached her and introduced myself. Even after that I made some effort to try to get to know her by asking her about herself. I even made cookies and offered her *and* her friends some. I actually think me being white bothered her more than her being black bothered me. And *that* REALLY bothers me. Especially since she's using her race to excuse some pretty inexcusable behavior. Having four or five guys in our living room until 3am on a daily basis is NOT okay. Especially when I have to study, and even more so when I have exams. I honestly don't care what ethnicity they are. And if you really don't understand that letting your brother sleep in our living room without asking first is a no-no, then I don't know what to say.
BTW- the one guy I had over once the entire semester that she's referring to stayed in my room the entire time. I don't really think she has room to complain in that department. Feel free to disagree.
I'm not sure if I should reply to this or just ignore it. Either way, all her emails are going straight to my Trash from now on.
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the night with you as often as you like. did you not think it was disrespectful to us that you would bring a stranger over and not say anything about it. in addition i never had the tv on late since i am usually asleep by 11pm and not a big fan of television. I'm up late only when i need to study or if i had company. you are clearly mistaking me with laurette, because i have approached her a couple of times about the television being on all night both for my sake and yours. i also explained to her that the walls were thin and she needs to keep the volume to a minimum. you act as if you never caused trouble. i sincerely believe that if my friends were not black you would have never felt that your life were in danger. im tired of all you racist folks. i saw your facial expression as soon as you first walked in the door and i knew you were going to give me problems.i will gladly send you a copy of all the bills. if you paid a bill that ranged from december i will gladly give y!
ou!
the money back. it was probably my mistake. i was not in the apartment in december, so i would not know who was there. im a very sincere person and you could have approached me with any thing that you thought was wrong or offending.i would not have taken it personally. you are dealing with things in a very immature way. we are all adults. but like i said, you will have to pay last months bill since you were in the apartment during that period. that bill is not even the complete months bill. it is only the bill for up to when i moved out since i closed the account that was under my name, but you and laurette will have to deal with the rest of it on your own.if you still believe that you should get some money back for the first bill, then i will gladly give it back to you. all i need from you is the exact date you moved in and i will calculate it from there. that is not a problem. i just find it interesting that you thought i made your semester in the apartment a living hell!
, !
and i did not get that impression. i always stayed out of your way after i saw that you were uncomfortable around me. anyways, i have no problem with you. you can foward me your address.
P.S. I dont appreciate this email you sent. it makes you look like a bitch. and i know that you are not. so you need to stop that. the least you could do is approach me in the same respectful manner that i haved approached you. i know your parents thought you better than that.
---- Original message ----
>Date: Sun, 8 Jun 2008 00:42:21 -0500 (CDT)
>From: ME
>Subject: Re: Regarding Bills
>To: HER
>
>Seri;
>
>The initial bill that you were asking money for clearly showed that the reading ran from December to January. I did not move in until the middle of January, so I feel I should not be responsible for that portion of the bill.
>
>Further more, you have given me plenty of trouble. You have caused undue amounts of stress by inviting strange guys over at strange hours on school nights and making an excessive amount of noise. You moved the TV into the common room without first consulting with me, and then proceeded to watch it into odd hours of the night with the volume at an excessive level. The above made me afraid to be home, and when I was it prevented me from getting the sleep I require. You also invited your brother to stay over for an excess of a week, which is clearly against the lease, and rude to do without consulting me first. These are only a few things that you did that were incredibly inconsiderate.
>
>You had a roommmate, and you completely disrespected that. You took every advantage you could of my kind nature. You made my first semester here a living hell.
>
>I never want to hear from or see you again, and the sooner that happens, the better. However, I will not let you take advantage of me. Since you already have my address, you may send me the bills. I will expect every single one from December on. I will need them in the mail by Thursday of this week so I may retrieve them this coming weekend.
>
>Apart from that, I want you to leave me alone. I believe you have already caused me enough trouble. Do not expect me to continue allowing this.
>
>-ME
>
>
>---- Original message ----
>>Date: Fri, 6 Jun 2008 23:22:09 -0500 (CDT)
>>From: HER
>>Subject: Re: Regarding Bills
>>To: ME
>>
>>we never charged you for december. the december bill was given to georgette, the previous roomate. and capstone never gave your number to anyone, your number is freely available on the school site. again you were never charged for december. the bill that you paid when u first moved in was starting from mid jan. which by then, you had already moved in. i would be glad to show you that bill,because i saved everything. however, you will still be paying for this bill that is due, because you also were in that building. if you like, you can seek legal action. ive never given you any trouble, so i suggest you dont give me any
>>
>>---- Original message ----
>>>Date: Fri, 6 Jun 2008 11:10:17 -0500 (CDT)
>>>From: ME
>>>Subject: Re: Regarding Bills
>>>To: HER
>>>
>>>Seri;
>>>
>>>When I moved in, you charged me for the month of December in which I neither
>>>resided nor had a lease with Capstone Quarters. The amount was more than
>>>$50, which should more than cover the utilities for April and May. If you still
>>>feel the need to receive money for April and May then I will require a refund
>>>for that the month of December AND the part of January of which I was not
>>>living nor had a lease with Capstone Quarters. If you feel this is a mistake, then
>>>I will require an audit of all the bills since December so this may be sorted out.
>>>If that is the case, I will leave you my address which is ONLY to be used for the
>>>purpose of forwarding the bills. Any other use of my address will constitute
>>>harassment, and I will pursue legal action. I also request that you not contact
>>>me by phone, which Capstone has seemed to illegally provide you.
>>>
>>>On that note, I feel as though you should have talked to me about this before I
>>>moved out. When I moved in there was never a discussion about utilities or
>>>how they should be handled. It is going to be much more difficult to resolve,
>>>now.
>>>
>>>-ME
>>>
>>>---- Original message ----
>>>>Date: Thu, 5 Jun 2008 18:26:19 -0500 (CDT)
>>>>From: HER
>>>>Subject: Regarding Bills
>>>>To: ME
>>>>
>>>>Hey Jenny,
>>>> This is seyi, your previous roommate at capstone. there is a bill due
>>>tommorow that covers april and early may. i need your third of the bill inorder
>>>to pay the full amount. give me a call. my number is XXX-XXX-XXXX
>>>
>>>
I have two really big problems:
1) They should have approached me about this before I moved out (they had ample opportunity to).
2) Racism is a pretty loaded term to be throwing around. I have no idea what "look on the face" she's talking about. When I first moved in I approached her and introduced myself. Even after that I made some effort to try to get to know her by asking her about herself. I even made cookies and offered her *and* her friends some. I actually think me being white bothered her more than her being black bothered me. And *that* REALLY bothers me. Especially since she's using her race to excuse some pretty inexcusable behavior. Having four or five guys in our living room until 3am on a daily basis is NOT okay. Especially when I have to study, and even more so when I have exams. I honestly don't care what ethnicity they are. And if you really don't understand that letting your brother sleep in our living room without asking first is a no-no, then I don't know what to say.
BTW- the one guy I had over once the entire semester that she's referring to stayed in my room the entire time. I don't really think she has room to complain in that department. Feel free to disagree.
I'm not sure if I should reply to this or just ignore it. Either way, all her emails are going straight to my Trash from now on.