Comments | damn_roommates: My roommate is a hoarder

starsinger03 in damn_roommates

My roommate is a hoarder

Jan 28, 2011 11:25

My roommate has slowly worked her way into taking up 90% of the shared (non-bedroom or bathroom) portion of the apartment. I feel like I have tried everything including yelling, asking nicely, telling her how I feel about it, and threatening to move out to get her to clean up. I've tried helping her, cleaning with her, making bargains with her, ( Read more... )

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didds January 28 2011, 16:34:18 UTC

throw out the garbage and throw the rest in her room.

or move out

I know you don't want to be her maid but those are really your only options since she doesn't care.

starsinger03 January 28 2011, 16:42:45 UTC

hahaha you haven't seen her room... yeah. I just needed somewhere to post where people would read :/ I need to find a better job before I can move out.

hardluckwomen January 28 2011, 17:08:59 UTC

Do you have a landlord who can come in and tell her to clean up or get out?

starsinger03 January 31 2011, 06:28:29 UTC

we live in a massive apartment complex and my name is on the lease too... I don't see it as the most viable option.

hardluckwomen January 31 2011, 14:35:26 UTC

I mean, you can always have him come up and scare her into cleaning. Or you're just going to have to clean up after her if you want a clean house, apparently.

biscayne January 28 2011, 17:14:58 UTC

Damn, and I thought I was a slob! Though granted, I live alone--when I lived with roommates, I always cleaned up after myself, no matter how slovenly I may have wanted to be.

helenawayne January 28 2011, 18:08:07 UTC

Wow, how weird is it that I also have a asberger's roommate? Only mine has depression issues instead of bipolar.

Every flat surface in our house is covered with her crap too. No matter how many times I try to get her to put her shit away, she's never in the mood. I clean the bathroom because if I didn't, it wouldn't get done. I've always done the dishes, and she takes out the trash.

In the past year she's taken to blowing off taking out the trash. She's hoarding. She's crying. She's making me miserable, and like you I can't move out because I can't afford it. I've also lived with her since college. She's gotten a lot worse in the past couple of years, but we're family. I feel like I can't abandon her.

I feel your pain, and if you ever need to vent you can friend my LJ.

starsinger03 January 31 2011, 06:31:02 UTC

Thank you for your comment. This is exactly what I'm dealing with. I left her alone this weekend and she called wanting me to come back because she was lonely and I told her that I wasn't coming back until today because I was staying in a place that was clean. Today when I came home she had picked up a little, helped with the dishes (which she DOESN"T do), and helped take out the trash.

absturz January 28 2011, 18:58:19 UTC

That's just awful. There's so much junk, random stuff, dishes and trash jammed together I can't tell what is what.

She needs help. And only seeing the theraphist every once in a while isn't enough, I think she actually might need to go into the psychiatric ward.
Imagine how the flat would look like if you wouldn't clean up after her at least a little.
It might be jammed with trash by now, or will be if she continues.

Like, I'm no professional or anything and sometimes I clutter dishes around my sofa when I'm too lazy to bring them back to kitchen right away, but it never looks anything like this.
That simply isn't normal anymore.

starsinger03 January 31 2011, 06:34:18 UTC

Yeah, she's going to a counselor weekly now and goes to her appointments with the psychiatrist, and has talked about going back into partial hospitalization. She seemed better today and is at least trying to do something now, so I don't know. Its just an ongoing and progressive problem with no real way out until April when my classes and the lease end.