Moving On...

[danarchy84]

So I talked to my dad yesterday. I'm going to move in with him by the end of the month. Kind of glad to be moving out of here, though it sucks that I have to live off my dad now. It will be good to be finally saving money instead of losing it. Speaking of which, I may have a job lined up at a local farm. My mom's friend's daughter works there

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[momokaachan]

Hey, don't look at it as "living off your dad" - offer a rent share when you can afford it (as well as help with groceries & utilities), and upkeep stuff like laundry, dishes, yard work etc. Look at your dad like a benevolent landlord if that helps. It CAN work out as a win situation for him too, not just for you. (It may not seem like a "win" situation to you right now, but he has said "yes" and you should look at that as a POSITIVE adjustment.) One of the worries that a parent may have (I have been there, you know) is that the child is moving back in as a child with no expectations of putting anything into the situation (like upkeep mentioned above). You are not moving in with him because you are homesick, right? Whether the situation is temporary/desperate or turns into something longer term, you - and he - will not lose by your dealing with it as a practical matter. Best of luck by the way, you can always poke me for comments/advice if you like.

[danarchy84]

Yeah, I'm definitely not doing it because of homesickness. I've never even seen the place he lives, and he was always kind of a...marginal parent. I already agreed to pay some rent while I'm there and will probably help a bit around the house, but I still kind of feel weird asking him a favor like this, especially since I haven't talked to him in about a year. Then again, the last few times I did talk to him, he was asking ME for favors, so...