Encouraging comments like that DO begin to wear on one. It does tend to ignore the fact that not every one finds some one. And the dating sites? Are actually very difficult to use to find some one. 90% of the women I've met using such in the past were very...ah...not good choices. The other ten percent tended to disappear fast, or not be interested. There are, however, always possibilities. But only if you work actively to make them. 'Course...after a while of failed relationships and failed attempts to start same, it gets harder to make the attempts. I for one (also with the lonely) hate being lonely. So keep making the attempts. At worst...you'll have some short lived relationships. At best...you might be able to make the sympathetic folk who keep saying the same thing sound like they're right.
And when you can afford to, pay for a month of a dating site now and again. The line ups do change.
And again I say there are plenty of single women in Kitsap County alone, you just need to know where to look. Or not look where you have been looking. You conjure up that 'looking for love in all the wrong places' song for me.
But seriously, if women you're attracted to keep rejecting you, you ought to figure out why. Otherwise you're going to keep on getting disappointed.
Keep in mind...when giving your advice about such things...that there are statistically more men than women on the west coast. Almost a 60% to 40% spread. It is harder for men to find women on this side of the rock.
The biggest thing is self confidence. People can pick up on it easy so rule #1: Don't be so down on yourself. It's hard for people to want to get in a relationship with anyone who is gloomy. A good example: There was a coworker who was really interested in me so to get my attention she would always tell me stories about how sad her life was. And that was a major turn off
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Then it sounds to me like you're on the right track! Flirting is good fun for everyone one. The next step is just to get out there and relax.
This year was full of weddings for me. I know a bunch of my friends wonder why I've yet to get a lady but, it's the price we pay for being picky.
I've never been a huge fan of cities but, there is a lot of things about D.C. that I like. I can spend a day just in the National Mall then there's the theaters. Also it's the best place to get good Ethiopian food. And to top it off it's just a train ride away. There's no place else in the world where you can have so much fun for 7 bucks.
I dunno, when I lived next to the ferry to Seattle, I could just walk to it, get a free ride there, hang out in Seattle all day, then come back for a $7 ferry ride home. And it's a really fun city, too. :D
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And the dating sites? Are actually very difficult to use to find some one. 90% of the women I've met using such in the past were very...ah...not good choices. The other ten percent tended to disappear fast, or not be interested.
There are, however, always possibilities. But only if you work actively to make them.
'Course...after a while of failed relationships and failed attempts to start same, it gets harder to make the attempts. I for one (also with the lonely) hate being lonely.
So keep making the attempts. At worst...you'll have some short lived relationships. At best...you might be able to make the sympathetic folk who keep saying the same thing sound like they're right.
And when you can afford to, pay for a month of a dating site now and again. The line ups do change.
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And fact of the matter is...women have to be more careful then men when using such sites. There are a higher percentage of creepy men on such.
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But seriously, if women you're attracted to keep rejecting you, you ought to figure out why. Otherwise you're going to keep on getting disappointed.
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Ironically...it's the opposite on the west coast.
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Yeah, it seems like all my friends are getting married now. Next year is going to be full of weddings.
D.C. is an awesome city. My parents were from Arlington and I really love all the museums and such there. :D
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This year was full of weddings for me. I know a bunch of my friends wonder why I've yet to get a lady but, it's the price we pay for being picky.
I've never been a huge fan of cities but, there is a lot of things about D.C. that I like. I can spend a day just in the National Mall then there's the theaters. Also it's the best place to get good Ethiopian food. And to top it off it's just a train ride away. There's no place else in the world where you can have so much fun for 7 bucks.
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