I only got upset once when a person I thought I was really good friends with and who had been my LJ friend for YEARS dropped me because she didn't like the stuff that happened last year between Kenny and I. Guess I found out who my real friends were through all of that. It hurt but I got over it and realizsed that she must have done it because she finally got the life she wanted and I was still working at mine and I guess she didn't want any "negetivity" around her. Oh well.
I read you, but like you said, I don't have a lot of time, I have a few LJ's I read DAILY (people who post several times a day, each day) and some I only read occasionally. It all depends. And now I have mostly peope who I have known for a long time and peopel I am close to or have a lot in common with on my list. My life has too much drama to have so many extra people on here.
I think people are pretty neat, too. And while there often IS a lot of drama associated with friending and unfriending, I think most of it is just totally unnecessary.
Sometimes the reason one unfriends someone is not what they might think. In my case, I unfriended two lovely people I like very much because their journal subject matter brought up unpleasant memories of my Hare Krishna temple dwelling days. Nothing personal at all and I'm happy if they read mine.
In other cases, I don't friend more people because I prefer to keep my friends' page to something I can read every day. I keep up with some people by reading one of my old friend's friends' page. (Say that three times fast.)
Friends list etiquette is still evolving, it seems, and there's not always an easy way to manage it. I find myself almost wishing I could have an A list friends' page for journals I really want to read often and a B list for acquaintances (aha, an acquaintance list!) for those I like to read if I have extra time or less frequently. Then I could move them back and forth from those lists and not have the A list get too unwieldly.
I use filtering for that - I have a 'must-read' filter for days when I really don't have time, a 'Default View' for most days, and other filters for other things. Some for reading, some for writing.
That is pretty much my philosophy as well. Also, just because I don't comment to everyone's post doesn't mean I didn't read it. I just had nothing special to add to the post or couldn't think of anything meaningful to say.
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I only got upset once when a person I thought I was really good friends with and who had been my LJ friend for YEARS dropped me because she didn't like the stuff that happened last year between Kenny and I. Guess I found out who my real friends were through all of that. It hurt but I got over it and realizsed that she must have done it because she finally got the life she wanted and I was still working at mine and I guess she didn't want any "negetivity" around her. Oh well.
I read you, but like you said, I don't have a lot of time, I have a few LJ's I read DAILY (people who post several times a day, each day) and some I only read occasionally. It all depends. And now I have mostly peope who I have known for a long time and peopel I am close to or have a lot in common with on my list. My life has too much drama to have so many extra people on here.
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In other cases, I don't friend more people because I prefer to keep my friends' page to something I can read every day. I keep up with some people by reading one of my old friend's friends' page. (Say that three times fast.)
Friends list etiquette is still evolving, it seems, and there's not always an easy way to manage it. I find myself almost wishing I could have an A list friends' page for journals I really want to read often and a B list for acquaintances (aha, an acquaintance list!) for those I like to read if I have extra time or less frequently. Then I could move them back and forth from those lists and not have the A list get too unwieldly.
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