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Apr 30, 2006 23:37

It's about to be May. I am tired, but I'm having trouble going to sleep. I just watched the movie Jarhead, which was exactly what I needed. I have been feeling disconnected from people, and it helped. I like to know that it really is a universal feeling to be like that. Or if it's not universal, it's certainly shared between me and that author ( Read more... )

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Unbearable Lightness? _nessa_lykke_ May 1 2006, 11:40:55 UTC

Read it again! And it's not just you and that author. I'm lonely and singular lately even in a crowd.

Re: Unbearable Lightness? danoconnor249 May 1 2006, 20:11:48 UTC

I never read the Unbearable Lightness of Being. Maybe I should. You know, it's funny. I kind of see marriage as the golden donut of happiness, when I guess it's still easy to feel lonely even when you're with your life partner. I think it's funny how sometimes I'll think of an old saying that I haven't thought of in a while, like, "Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone." And it's like, "Yeah. That is true." Even when people are grieving together, they're still alone. When you're feeling disconnected, you're not gonna connect again until you get to a better place. And really no one else can help. Luckily, sleeping helps. I felt better this morning. And school went well today.

What are you up to? How's stuff?

Re: Unbearable Lightness? disciplex May 2 2006, 21:54:17 UTC

I think grieving, whether alone or not, is a disconnect from the world for exactly what you said, because you can't experience other things until you get to a better place. Getting to that place is the reconnection with the world, and lacking that, I find it hard to enjoy stuff. Even just momentary reconnections, like the kind you make when you hear great news in a friends life, requires that element of reconnection to feel the happiness you feel for them. For me, even people grieving with me is helpful in that I no longer feel alone. Lots of people seem to be down lately, myself until recently included, but the sense of community, of not being alone, is important I think. And at a minimum, having that sense of community protects you from getting down about other things when disconnected.

thebookofjon May 1 2006, 17:57:50 UTC

I'm not working at NGW much this summer and CCY is 15-20 minutes from my place in New Haven. On top of that, I have a lite month gig-wise in May. We should hang out. Seriously.

danoconnor249 May 1 2006, 20:21:15 UTC

Good idea. I'd love to hang out. I am stuck in the city, though. Are you coming to NYC any time soon?