catching up...

[daraknor]

So I've been reading my friends list for the first time in ages. It is interesting to see all of the things people have been up to. Lives changed, things happening. There was a post in my friends about a physics theory involving 240 or so dimensions simplifying math for a grand unified theory. Tried to find that again but couldn't find the post or

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Constructive Advice (I Hope)

[tiny_muse]

My experience with you may be completely out of date, but what I've seen is that you don't like to hear bad things about you. You'll accept that you've approached something the wrong way, i.e. used the wrong words to present something...but any criticism that you're falling into patterns of abuse are very solidly shut down. You have a tendency to make your actions other people's fault (e.g. "I never would have gotten mad enough to have a seizure if you hadn't done X") instead of finding more constructive ways to deal with anger, or admitting that it's a situation that WON'T get better and leaving it before you make yourself even worse. You also have a habit of ignoring what other people say after you've assigned that blame to them, so if there's a REASON they did that (such as trying to get your attention the only way they knew they could, Mr. Workaholic) it never registers in your mind

Re: Constructive Advice (I Hope)

[daraknor]

What is the constructive advice here? Here is what I'm gathering, in plain simple assertive language:

I work too much to make other people feel appreciated and should take more time off.
Having seizures is one part of a cycle of abuse and ??? I should stop having seizures before having relationships?
I must examine the causes of people's tantrums in addition to their consequences.

It is hard for me to see the constructive parts to the cycles you point toward. I'd like to have positive assertions that tell me how to improve the observations you are making.

Re: Constructive Advice (I Hope)

[tiny_muse]

I didn't want to put it in this format because I thought you might take it as "telling you what to do". But this is the advice I'd give, as simply as I can put it

Re: Constructive Advice (I Hope)

[daraknor]

Point 2 is rather hard for several reasons. I have the seizures mostly under control now (no eggs) but sometimes people just don't listen. In Jan there was a guy who kept calling and I tried explaining that I would call him back after after my health was stable. He redialed my cell over a dozen times to harass me. I turned my cell off and still had the seizure. 3 hours later when I recovered I turned my cell on and received over 60 text messages