Disconnect

[dark_amaranth]

I wonder how many people exist in relationships in which they reside in their own private fantasy, and all external happenings are somehow transformed and reinterpreted to fit their notion of what they would like the relationship to be. This is probably completely vague, but I can't give any specific instances.

The only example that remotely comes

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[mylifewill]

the fiction-to-reality disconnect happens because the natures of the "troubles" are wrong

second thoughts

[mylifewill]

of course, i could be totally wrong.

i told do yeob once that the girl from my sassy girl would be perfect. he dropped his jaw but quickly regained his trademark composure, remarking that i must be crazy.

[rockstarpoet]

Hello, was doing the Random Journal button, and this entry caught my attention.

I have no qualms making sacrifices for a woman, or jumping through hoops to a degree, but it works both ways.

Now them purposely causing drama, thats another story.

However, I realize what your saying far as falling for the idea of the person.

I am rather introverted, and a lot of times, I find girls attracted to the idea of me, and they really don't look at me fully.

I hate it.

[crimson_swan]

haha dark-amaranth, you got a emo creeper from your inspirational post! congrats!

As for the contents of your post, it's a matter of value. The harder you work for something, the more valuable it becomes. Fraternities use this little trick all the time - hazing the pledges, making them work for brotherhood.

It can only strike our romantic fancy that 'Love' - something so precious and so beautiful - is something that you have to work hard to get. Jumping off bridges, following someone to death's end, it's all a part of the game.

And I mean why not create a breed of bitches. Sounds like fun.

[ventus]

I think many of us idealize the person we love. Some of us much more than others. Personally, I think some idealization is inevitable, but it becomes a problem when A) the person we idealize realize what we are doing and begin to feel resentful of our unrealistic understanding and expectations of them, and B) we allow our emotions to take over when fantasy and reality don't match and we create "drama" from not being able to deal with the disconnect. I guess if I were the person being idealized, I would be frustrated and upset if I come to believe that my partner (or friend, whatever) doesn't actually know the "real" me, but rather only the fantasy of me...their love would feel fake and naive even if I knew the other person didn't mean to make it that way. To some extent, that would make me wary of the person who is doing the idealization and unconsciously keep them at a distance. Then the first person is hurt by the coldness, and the vicious cycle perpetuates. Oh, the drama. :P

[dark_amaranth]

I really enjoy your insights. :]

[ventus]

=)

Btw, we still gotta hang out in July when you get back. :P