IMO weddings aren't about the groom - they are about the bride, BUT you should be considerate of what makes him happy too. Maybe you should look around more?
Kim and I are thinking about having our wedding where the winterfeast was. They have a nice chapel there (no specific religion) as well as a great spot for a reception.
Weddings are not about the bride. That kind of thinking leads to bridzillas. Weddings are about celebrating the love you share. I'm sure you know that his opinion is important.
I used to have infinite patience too. Then I moved to NYC. After three years, I noticed I was not nearly as patient as I used to be. It's not a big deal. What's important is that you are aware of the change. I have no doubts that you won't let it negatively affect you. You're an incredible woman with amazing people skills. Walking away to maintain your sanity was not terrible. It's not like you smacked the kid!
I'm so happy that you will be joining us for Trudpert's! I didn't think you would be able to because of Mike's b'day. Give him a special birthday hug for me!
I have no doubt that you and he will find a place that you are both happy with. You might find that he sees the Barn and loves it, or that you see it and don't so much. Amanda's right... it isn't about the bride or the groom, but about the couple. Here's your first big chance to work together and find a way to make things "perfect" for both of you. There will be plenty of times in the future when you will need to compromise on something big! Remember that it isn't the place, or the flowers, or what you serve, or what you wear or any of that that is really important... it is having the people you love around you while you celebrate the very special connection between Jenn and Mike. I'm certain that, wherever you decide to have the ceremony, it will be beautiful... not because of the trappings, but because of the way you two glow when you are together.
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Congrats on your engagement! Mike is a really nice guy.
Tell him that this is your day, and that he should just nod and let you make all the decisions (if he wants to live) ;)
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I used to have infinite patience too. Then I moved to NYC. After three years, I noticed I was not nearly as patient as I used to be. It's not a big deal. What's important is that you are aware of the change. I have no doubts that you won't let it negatively affect you. You're an incredible woman with amazing people skills. Walking away to maintain your sanity was not terrible. It's not like you smacked the kid!
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I have no doubt that you and he will find a place that you are both happy with. You might find that he sees the Barn and loves it, or that you see it and don't so much. Amanda's right... it isn't about the bride or the groom, but about the couple. Here's your first big chance to work together and find a way to make things "perfect" for both of you. There will be plenty of times in the future when you will need to compromise on something big! Remember that it isn't the place, or the flowers, or what you serve, or what you wear or any of that that is really important... it is having the people you love around you while you celebrate the very special connection between Jenn and Mike. I'm certain that, wherever you decide to have the ceremony, it will be beautiful... not because of the trappings, but because of the way you two glow when you are together.
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