I find it amusing, (and only so because amusement is better than despair), that it sucks worse breaking up with someone you aren't even dating
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The reason love is so special is because it is so complex... so confusing. So when you do have feelings for someone, all the hurts cease to matter
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We still have strong feelings for each other - but what our relationship needs, in order to keep the both of us sane - is definatly time apart. We constantly argue about everything - we have two completely different views on the world and over the course of the relationship it has placed a great strain upon the two of us. We have both said that perhaps this isn't the final end - who knows in the future we may get back together and in the meantime have learned how to better handle our differences. I feel a tearing inside me as half of me wants to just be with her right now, and the logical part of me knows that this break - be it temporary or permanant is for the best. I just don't know how to handle the awkwardness of seeing her again so soon, I suppose. We were really comfortable with each other. Even last night - when I was moving out of her place she had to take a shower while we were talking - so she just stripped in front of me. It completely blew my mind on how to thin k - there she was in front of me naked, and even
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My advice... (From experience) Is that you should not try to make being friends more than it should be. She wants to be friends, don't try to pressure it into being more. It just makes the person want to see you less. I know because it happened to me. And now finally is starting to actually turn into us being just friends. Don't complain about how much you see eachother. Not saying you will... this is just advice.
Also, taking somewhat of a break from eachother for a little bit, a week maybe 2. Is a good thing despite what people think. I've watched couples who break up, the only way to truly be friends is to take that small break to let some of the feelings go if not all of them. And as hard as it may be to think that It will help. It does. I don't know how not being with the person would make you hate them. I think that it wouldn't.. but I dunno....
I think that is precicesly what is going to happen - she's going to be busy at least until this weekend finishing getting ready for, then actually having her convention, and then perhaps a week should go by then I'll be ready to see her. The more I think about it , well, I guess I don't really get any less confused about our situation, but my mind is kaleidescoping over all the possibilities. I want to see her again, It's not like I hate her or anthing.
thanks j, no hard feelings. i bet you need to get your mind off of everything. wanna play laser quest this weekend?? maybe do dinner as well? <3 you WILL get through it.
i hope you don't mind advice from a stranger -- if you need to take time off, for your own sanity, don't let her badger you into sticking around. people have needs -- happiness needs, sex needs, etcetc and you SHOULD NOT feel bad for these! at most, you need to find a compromise between your needs and hers. if she's not cool with you taking a break, and wants you to be her support group without any regard for your feelings, then she should shove off. good luck. you sound like a lovely guy and i'm sure you'll be happy soon. -random girl :)
I'm actually such a computer nerd, that I think I know who you are! Is that strange? Oh, now I need to find a way for me to confirm it. If you happen to read this reply - send me a message on AIM - Jason has my screen name, if you don't ;)
And by the way - I didn't mean to skip it. Thank you for posting, regardless of who you are. I didn't mean to post any picture where it seems like Jill is badgering me into sticking around, or not having regard for any of my feelings or anything, Jill actually is the kind of girl who when I said I'd have difficulties seeing her instantly said that she understood. (Which in a way is maddening, as I think of it, because in a small or even not so small way I'd want her to fight that in order to see me) There is no telling what will come, but seeing as I sent her a text saying I hope she had fun at her convention, and she's back already and I haven't heard anything, it may, in fact, be safe to say that she's not initiating contact with me anyway.
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Sorry - it was too good of an opening to pass up.
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Also, taking somewhat of a break from eachother for a little bit, a week maybe 2. Is a good thing despite what people think. I've watched couples who break up, the only way to truly be friends is to take that small break to let some of the feelings go if not all of them. And as hard as it may be to think that It will help. It does. I don't know how not being with the person would make you hate them. I think that it wouldn't.. but I dunno....
Hope you figure it out man...
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good luck. you sound like a lovely guy and i'm sure you'll be happy soon.
-random girl :)
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Is that strange? Oh, now I need to find a way for me to confirm it. If you happen to read this reply - send me a message on AIM - Jason has my screen name, if you don't ;)
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