Justin, i totally agree with you, but don't you think you're being judgemental with you words here? What if someone who has gotten a divorce reads this? i think they may be a little hurt on top of the hurt they're already feeling. I think you could have been more sensitive with your words in this one.
I can think of one instance i know of in my own circle of aquaintances where one person just was absolutely not willing to work things out. I'm not saying he was right, or divorce is right at all, but if the person who was willing to work it it out read this, they would be really upset.
I know a lot of what you're mostly talking about is in reference pre-nups here, but still
First off, you have to understand I know full well what it's like to be in a situation where one of the parties doesn't have a choice, because the other has their mind made up. This is what happened to my mom.
Understand what I'm saying here. I've been through a nasty, nasty divorce. I know the pain, the division, the heartbreak my family still lives with today. And I would not once judge my mom, or anyone else who's been in that situation. (I minister to people every sunday who have gone through simular stuff.)
Dare I say, what I am being judgemental about is the fact that you're setting yourself up for failure if you consider the possibility that things won't work out. You either commit, or you you have no buisness wanting to get married and live with someone.
I just wish we would prepare ouselves more properly for the long haul of a marrigae, that's all. I really believe this generation will make a shift in the "divorce right."
Divorce is a only a necessity if something major affected the marriage and biblically it is okay to divorce... you know that. Warning signs for questionable things are always present in a dating relationship and divorce should be prevented.
Divorce is never a necesity unless one of the members of the marriage has their mind set that they have to get out, and there's nothing you can do about that.
The only type of divorce that the bible condones, ever, is due to marital unfaithfulness; if someone has an affair. I wish I knew the reference in Matthew of the top of my head. Ever! Ever! The bible does not speak kindly of divorce, because for those that followed God (Jews) or newe followers of Christ, to divorce was to break a sacred covenant made before God.
Im gonna have to side with Justin on this onejcforpkOctober 25 2005, 04:24:13 UTC
i Believe that divorce is a sin because if you are married to the person that God chose for you, you would be happy thus not wanting to be divorced. if you go against Gods will for your life and marry some God hasn't chosen for you, you will most likely get a divorce and since you went against Gods will for your life you have sinned
i have to compliment you Justin on bringing that up with whole divorce thing. I wish other people could understand what marriage actually means but anyway see ya wednesday dude
i do think a lot of people think you are close minded and i have been guilty of thinking that about you at times but i think you brought up some very good points with the opening statements you made. I think a lot of people including myself don't look at what you are trying to accomplish with the things you choose to do and things you choose not to do. Many times what is being looked over is your goals and planns for the future, and we just write that off as "ah well Justin is just being narrow minded and controling again" and thats wrong and i am now begining to understand what you are doing when ever you go against the crowd and the ways of the world. I now am begining to see how you are prepareing yourself for the ministry and missions feild, so dude keep it up there is no shame in standing up for what you hold to be true
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I can think of one instance i know of in my own circle of aquaintances where one person just was absolutely not willing to work things out. I'm not saying he was right, or divorce is right at all, but if the person who was willing to work it it out read this, they would be really upset.
I know a lot of what you're mostly talking about is in reference pre-nups here, but still
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First off, you have to understand I know full well what it's like to be in a situation where one of the parties doesn't have a choice, because the other has their mind made up. This is what happened to my mom.
Understand what I'm saying here. I've been through a nasty, nasty divorce. I know the pain, the division, the heartbreak my family still lives with today. And I would not once judge my mom, or anyone else who's been in that situation. (I minister to people every sunday who have gone through simular stuff.)
Dare I say, what I am being judgemental about is the fact that you're setting yourself up for failure if you consider the possibility that things won't work out. You either commit, or you you have no buisness wanting to get married and live with someone.
I just wish we would prepare ouselves more properly for the long haul of a marrigae, that's all. I really believe this generation will make a shift in the "divorce right."
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The only type of divorce that the bible condones, ever, is due to marital unfaithfulness; if someone has an affair. I wish I knew the reference in Matthew of the top of my head. Ever! Ever! The bible does not speak kindly of divorce, because for those that followed God (Jews) or newe followers of Christ, to divorce was to break a sacred covenant made before God.
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i have to compliment you Justin on bringing that up with whole divorce thing. I wish other people could understand what marriage actually means but anyway see ya wednesday dude
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there is no shame in standing up for what you hold to be true
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