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[das_dick_mann]

Love is a very strange feeling. I was informed by the (soon ex) gf that love fixes everything and that if you love someone then everything will be ok. Really? Did I miss the memo? Have I been living in a dream for the last 2 years? If love can fix everything, then why did Ruffalo and I fall apart

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[_paralleltosky]

I don't think you're looking at this in a negative way, more or less a realistic one..I've had one failed relationship where I thought loving someone was just enough to keep it going, when deep down I knew it wouldn't fix problems like I was hoping it would..now being in a relationship with someone who once hated the thought of love and never wanted to love or be loved by anyone, I find myself saying that, "I love you's don't fix everything"..and it's true, you can't stay with someone you're not happy with only out of love, I think you need more than that to build a solid relationship...I know this does sound somewhat pessimesic, but I love being in love and think it's the greatest feeling anyone can experience, but you have to find the right person to do it with, which requires going through bad relationships, but when you find the one, it'll be all right..

[das_dick_mann]

Yeah. I understand all of that.

"I love you's" do not fix everything and there is no way to just stop carrying about a fight. It was the same problem that has happened time and time again and the same problem she said she would work on.

There is only so much someone can take. :(

[blackangeldeath]

So you plan on breaking up with her but haven't yet?

[das_dick_mann]

You know me...

I didn't want to do it when I was angry and when I had thoughts going through my mind as to why I would be doing what I was going to do. Writing this out helped because it let me get my real thoughts out.

I have been staying in the relationship out of love, not out of me actually wanting to be in it. Horrible thing to say, but it is the truth. I love her, but I not in the way that I really should.

I love spending time with her, love being around her, love being able to connect... but I am not in love with her anymore on an emotional level.