Family is important to him. If they don't approve ... if they don't approve, our living arrangements will likely prove somewhat troublesome, and that would hardly be the biggest worry.
I know how that feels, sorta. I still haven't told my family, and truthfully it's because I'm scared of the change. That's probably what's bothering him. Ask him if he's completely happy now with the way things are. I like to THINK I'm perfectly happy, but that feeling that I haven't told is going to keep nagging me.
Might sound a little mean, but you could try playing up the guilt that he might be feeling from not telling them, and then assuring him that change is okay.
It seems ... strange to be living in Kaidoh-san's house, at her invitation, and keep something of import from her. I am not concerned with who does or doesn't know, and if I lived elsewhere, this likely wouldn't have come up at all, but the chances of her not approving are too great.
Shishido-kun had better hope he can keep up with you, Mukahi. I have considered that before, but I doubt Kaidoh would appreciate the manipulation. He's the only person I could manipulate like that, and the only one I wouldn't want to.
I didn't really think of it like that, but you're right, it's probably a little uncomfortable. Maybe, when you get around to telling, make sure she knows your intentions with him. ....Does HE know your intentions with him? Or... I don't know, you'll have to ask him what exactly is bothering him about telling and if there's something other than living arrangements or not.
Would you believe it was Ryou's constant saying that it was okay to wait that made me WANT to tell? I guess I just didn't like the idea that he was waiting for me... Maybe reverse psychology would work on Kaidoh? I understand that. Like there would be any way I'd want to manipulate Ryou into anything.
Screened to Mukahidata_meganeJuly 17 2008, 23:32:26 UTC
This ... I don't know, Mukahi. Ultimately, I don't have intentions, with Kaidoh. I want him, I care for him, I will do everything in my power to keep his trust and respect, but what that means, I've never tried to understand. We've never - we don't talk, like this. Though I'm fairly certain that will be changing soon, I don't know that being honest like this would do anything to reassure either of his parents.
That is more than understandable, though I doubt it would have that effect on Kaidoh. I don't know if ... The one thing I worry about, now, is pushing him too far. If this is just another way of my staking claim, then Kaidoh is right, and we shouldn't say anything.
And exactly what sort of advice are you seeking? I think keeping your secret for now may be best - it is *his* parents, not yours. Letting him deal with it may be best for now. I'm sure it will all come out soon enough.
Aa ... Though I don't believe I'm being unreasonable. It would be one thing if we were simply dating, but as I live with them, it would be for the best if they knew sooner rather than later. Particularly if they do not approve.
Still, you are right that they are his family. The decision does ultimately lie with Kaidoh.
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I guess... keep talking to him? He's stubborn. >.> He'll see sense in time. I think!
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I intend to. It is frustrating, having to remember to not show undue concern or relief ...
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Might sound a little mean, but you could try playing up the guilt that he might be feeling from not telling them, and then assuring him that change is okay.
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Shishido-kun had better hope he can keep up with you, Mukahi. I have considered that before, but I doubt Kaidoh would appreciate the manipulation. He's the only person I could manipulate like that, and the only one I wouldn't want to.
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Would you believe it was Ryou's constant saying that it was okay to wait that made me WANT to tell? I guess I just didn't like the idea that he was waiting for me... Maybe reverse psychology would work on Kaidoh? I understand that. Like there would be any way I'd want to manipulate Ryou into anything.
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That is more than understandable, though I doubt it would have that effect on Kaidoh. I don't know if ... The one thing I worry about, now, is pushing him too far. If this is just another way of my staking claim, then Kaidoh is right, and we shouldn't say anything.
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And exactly what sort of advice are you seeking? I think keeping your secret for now may be best - it is *his* parents, not yours. Letting him deal with it may be best for now. I'm sure it will all come out soon enough.
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Still, you are right that they are his family. The decision does ultimately lie with Kaidoh.
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