Crushing on a coworker
I've been crushing really bad on a coworker, D, for months now and I'm unsure what I should do about the situation. Initially, I assumed the crush would go away but it has only gotten stronger with time. However, we both have SOs and I have become extremely confused both about my own feelings and his.
At the beginning, our relationship was very platonic and we used to talk about our SOs all the time. Lately though, both of us have stopped mentioning our respective SO, unless we're taking about a fight or otherwise negative interaction. He has also started indirectly calling me pretty/attractive, pointing out when other men are flirting with me, and making sexual jokes. He teases me constantly.
On top of the banter, D has also started asking me to get lunch with him and buying, and has commented about how it's going to look like he's cheating with me. However, he's always been a gentleman. About a week ago, we both got stuck in the office late and he bought me dinner to kill time while traffic dies down.
What would you do in this situation? I have a boyfriend and am starting to feel extremely guilty and like my actions are inappropriate, but I also really like this guy. I am having a hard time letting go or backing off, especially when he's consistently escalating.
Edit: I also absolutely can't try to avoid D at work. We are working on a big project together which required a lot of close interaction and communication. It will not end until January, at the earliest.
At the beginning, our relationship was very platonic and we used to talk about our SOs all the time. Lately though, both of us have stopped mentioning our respective SO, unless we're taking about a fight or otherwise negative interaction. He has also started indirectly calling me pretty/attractive, pointing out when other men are flirting with me, and making sexual jokes. He teases me constantly.
On top of the banter, D has also started asking me to get lunch with him and buying, and has commented about how it's going to look like he's cheating with me. However, he's always been a gentleman. About a week ago, we both got stuck in the office late and he bought me dinner to kill time while traffic dies down.
What would you do in this situation? I have a boyfriend and am starting to feel extremely guilty and like my actions are inappropriate, but I also really like this guy. I am having a hard time letting go or backing off, especially when he's consistently escalating.
Edit: I also absolutely can't try to avoid D at work. We are working on a big project together which required a lot of close interaction and communication. It will not end until January, at the earliest.