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nulz in datinandrelatin

Socialising with colleagues

Nov 28, 2014 19:55

I graduated this year and have been working at a graphic design agency for the past 6/7 months. It's fairly small (less than 40 employees) and naturally, there's a group of people who like to go to the bar at the weekend, go for lunches, etc etc. I am very very introverted and feel terribly awkward and wondering how to deal with this 1. now and 2. ( Read more... )

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lurath December 3 2014, 14:27:49 UTC

Why do you feel you need to come out of a "shell"? Just because you are worried about what others think of you, or is there some other reason? From what you describe it doesn't sound like the people going out to lunch have noticed, and that you have other "quiet" people in the office. Your field seems like it would attract introverts so I'm sure you are not alone ( ... )

miio_miio December 3 2014, 17:45:02 UTC

What I would like to say is that you should accept yourself the way you are. If you desire to be out there and be like the extravert people, then maybe you could take a course on something like that. If you prefer your own easy life, then just be that person. Does it really matter what others think of you? Does that define you? I guess it's something these days that people define themselves as how others see them. Don't let them do that to you. Chill out and do whatever you want to do. Wanna join them? Give it a shot and try. (you never know until you try, right?) Prefer your comfort zone? Stick to it and have your friends out of office. I mean no harm with this comment, I hope it's in any way useful to you. All the best!

bonoffee December 3 2014, 18:18:57 UTC

It depends what you want out of your working life. You don't *have* to socialise with these people, but you'll be spending a good amount of time with them. I come at this from a position of being an introvert but I have managed to become known at my work as a sociable person. Well, I AM a sociable person - it's possible to be a social introvert - and also I have a good work persona. Everyone has a work persona to some extent. I'm not the same at work as I am at home. I have to be responsible and on top of things and communicate with my team members at work, and I would never get that done if I didn't talk to people. And I find that once I put the 'ground work' in with making an effort to socialise, that all became easier. And now I don't need to socialise with work people if I don't want to because I've taken time to talk to everyone at some point or another and I have established a decent working relationship with them (even the ones I'm not so keen on, I still get on OK with ( ... )

xnaivetex December 3 2014, 22:08:46 UTC

I know everyone is saying it's okay to be introverted in the work place, but I'd like to offer a differing view point ( ... )

nulz December 3 2014, 22:21:53 UTC

Yeah, that's how I feel...I like my coworkers but I feel like I'm there to work and I just want to get on with stuff instead of talking about what I did at the weekend. But I'm very aware that small workplaces like/want people who will be part of the "family" and all that, so it's tough. Makes sense though, because no one is gonna know that I want to progress or know what I want to do with my career because I don't talk about it with my coworkers!

617529309 December 4 2014, 05:01:15 UTC

I have to agree with xnaivetex. I am also an introvert. And a receptionist, haha! It's honestly exhausting having to speak with people who come in. I'm so afraid of how I come off when they're sitting in the lobby wanting to make small talk, and I just don't feel comfortable chatting ( ... )