Boyfriend and Weed

[lifeisgood01]

Alright...here goes

Comments

[cosmicwonder]

From what I can gather from your post, you've only been in this relationship for about 3 months. Your boyfriend broke a promise at least 2 times in a very short amount of time. I agree with the others that you need to break up with him. It doesn't matter how rigid your rules are; your boyfriend has shown very quickly that he's not willing to abide by them. If I were in your shoes, I'd really be questioning whether he's willing to respect your wishes in general. I don't think he is.

[shdwcat]

Dump him. It's a dealbreaker for you. I know some people say "weed isn't a big deal," but it is for YOU, and that's all that matters.

[distracteddream]

I don't think you're judgmental for having weed use be a deal breaker. I have friends who smoke and that's fine, but I know I'm not comfortable in a relationship with someone who smokes weed. It's always made me uncomfortable, it's illegal in my state, and it would cause serious issues for me professionally. My ex used to smoke and lie about it and I kept forgiving him, which never solved anything. He made me feel like I was ridiculous and controlling for not wanting drug use in our relationship, and it was definitely a huge contributor to our breakup. It's okay that we had different views toward weed, but they ultimately just we're not compatible, and I don't regret not changing my mind. I was always worried my views on weed would be an issue in relationships, but my fiancé shares them and it's not a problem

Let Him Go

[vampedgoddess]

Sorry you're going through this but you need to let him go. If he really wants to be with you without the weed he'll stop eventually and come back around. If you say you don't want to be with someone who does that you need to stick to it, otherwise he'll continue to push you even if he doesn't mean too.