So, someone called you a Unicorn Hunter?

[davidlnoble]

This article is a long, technical discussion of what being a "Unicorn Hunter" means, what's wrong with it, and how people in such a situation can try to avoid the negative stereotypes associated with such behavior and get the things that they are ultimately looking for. It is written in a conversational style so as to make it as "approachable" as

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[donnaidh_sidhe]

I'm shocked that there haven't been any comments made on this. I don't have much time to write, so wanted to say I appreciate the amount of thought that was put into this, and it's got me thinking about my next bit of writing as well.

Thank you for the write up!

[anonymous]

Amazing post. As someone who had been exploring and researching this sort of thing for quite a while now I had not yet seen such a complete list of helpful information. Not only does this talk about the particular issue of "Unicorn Hunters" but it is immensely helpful for just about any sort of relationship at all.

Wow!!

[anonymous]

This is an amazing article. I just broke things off last week with a new partner (part of a couple) because I was miserable and I wasn't 100% sure why, but it is clear that I was being treated like a unicorn and that this couple needs to read this article, mature a bit and grow. It was an outrageously disempowered dynamic, dripping with high levels of insecurity from my meta, poor communication from both of them, and ample expectations and rules levied on me. I felt utterly used and my self worth took a beating, not to mention that I was emotionally turbulent and anxious for the whole two months dating them. The sentence about being asked to "climb into the box" resonates deeply with me, as does this whole article. All "unicorns" or rather, those wanting to avoid being treated as such, need this article!! -D

WOW!

[anonymous]

I'm shocked that there aren't more comments on this. This was a beautifully written piece, and should be mandatory reading for anyone even considering poly, not just "unicorn hunters". You've managed to pack this article with solid advice in pretty much all of the poly minefields. I (regretfully) see many of the mistakes my husband and I made when we first started "opening up". We read all the books, and still thought we were "doing it right". I wish wholeheartedly that I had seen this article then. I'm bookmarking this page, and plan on coming back to it again and again -as needed ;)

Thanks

[anonymous]

Very enlightening and informative article. Cheers for uploading, has been very helpful, will definitely be taking all this into consideration