It takes two to make children

[dawnwithrow6]

This is the comment my husband made to me earlier today. There is a apparently a new reality show where the women leave town for a period of time. He told me about this, and didn't like that I started laughing. I don't mean a chuckle, I mean I was laughing really hard. As he glared at me I informed him of some information that he wasn't aware of,

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[jennickels]

Stupid men are stupid.
And you know we're secretly married to the same guy, lol.
My husband could, maybe, survive a few days without me around but our kids are older. He just foists all his responsibility on them. I see it every day. He makes them do all the chores and take care of the baby while he plays video games. If I ask him for help with someone he makes one of the kids do it. Sigh.

If I left for a month, the house would go to hell. I'd come back to filth and miserable kids. and my husband would still be playing video games.

[dawnwithrow6]

Yep, my daughter gets told to do things for him, for her brothers, and so on all the time. I have asked her to do things for them when I'm cooking, cleaning, etc, but I do the majority of it. My kids might be around the same age as yours, daughter is basically 13, oldest son is 7, next son is 5, last son is 3.

My husband won't even go get his own damn clothes when he's going to shower. He asks me or if I'm not around, my daughter to go get them for him. Video games, oh yes, that happens here as well. He does help me at times if I ask, but will ask Lexi to do it if he doesn't want to move. I've busted him on that one a few time, cause I'll tell him what she's doing, which is why I asked him.

[jennickels]

It gets irritating when I ask him to do something for me and he just passes it on to the kids. If I wanted them to do it I would have told them in the first place. I do expect the kids to help each other and they do it without being asked because it's normal for them but they shouldn't have to change his diaper every time, every day.

He seems to be under the impression that his "job" is done after 8 hours at work and everything else is for me to do. Unfortunately he's off work for an injury right now so all he does is sit around and if I ask him for help he has the excuse of being hurt. Even though I pretty much have the same exact injury (pulled/torn ligament in my shoulder). Actually I've messed up both shoulders. I still manage to do all my chores and take care of everyone despite the pain. I'll probably never even see a doctor for it and just suck up the pain the rest of my life.

[dawnwithrow6]

Definitely sounds familiar, an if you sneeze, he has pneumonia kind of thing. My husband is the same way. If I'm tired, so is he, and he has to explain in minute detail why. I stop talking to him when he does that, cause it just ticks me off to no end.

David does the same thing on the work as well, he's worked so I'm on my own with the normal make the house presentable, the kids cared for, clean, and well stuff. Yes, a diaper here or there never killed anyone, but it's not just one person's job when there are 2 parents in the house!