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Jun 23, 2006 13:27

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cant have your cake and eat it to greentruth June 23 2006, 17:42:10 UTC

and thats what they try to do, I think some time alone between the couple is a must. After that then you can work on being friends but if you are still acting like a couple but the person can see other people then they are having their cake.

Re: cant have your cake and eat it to daz_meh June 24 2006, 05:38:31 UTC

agreed

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daz_meh June 24 2006, 05:39:04 UTC

ya. I hear you on that big time. Its just real awkward because he still lives with me.

ohhhlissa June 23 2006, 17:53:56 UTC

at first, distance, totally. you run the risk of mixed signals if you're still in contact, trying to pretend that everything's good and normal.

but eventually, once you've had time to heal and get over it, i think that a mature, caring couple can still remain on good terms even though they aren't in a relationship anymore.

hasn't happened to me, but i do believe it's possible!!

but aren't you still living together? that's a whole other issue....

daz_meh June 24 2006, 05:39:39 UTC

yes we're still living together. so .. it is another issue for sure.

purensimple June 23 2006, 18:42:22 UTC

We are in the same position

Personally, i cant be friends with an ex, it's impossible for me. No matter what, it will always be awkward, and be honest, do you really want your ex talking about his gf's to you?? i dont!

So for me, i choose to not be anywhere where HE is gonna be, i just choose to ignore him and pretend he never existed...it's easier that way

daz_meh June 24 2006, 05:41:04 UTC

that takes guts. to pretend he doesn't exist. well i guess that being said.. it depends on how you broke up. Bad terms? EZZZZZ to ignore him. haha.

good terms. Cold turkey. thats tough. but I think it needs to be done too.

It's just so damn hard though cuz he lives in the house still

purensimple June 26 2006, 13:10:39 UTC

Chip and I didnt really end on 'bad terms' we just ended..
I dont think there's animosity between us..
But i'm sure there is now!
He went to my club on Saturday
And i ignored him the whole night!
He went with his boys - one which is also by best friend
And i chose to hang alone in VIP than chill with my friends..

So i'm sure he's gotten the hint now that I want NOTHING to do with him
It was hard, but i'll manage (i HAVE to)

daz_meh June 26 2006, 16:18:40 UTC

good for you!!!!

hi five!

EX-perience filipino_shawty June 24 2006, 13:51:04 UTC

The fact that you still have emotions for him, "being apart from him sucks", then it is better to part ways until those feelings subsides. I am not talking about love because that never fades, but the emotions behind the love -- that is the perception that you love him as a friend, not as a lover. So until you have transcended to that point then you two should seperate, physically, to seperate emotionally. In my personal experience, I tried to talk to an ex after breakup but he treated me the same way as we were in a relationship, so I had to cut it off because I do not want to mislead him to think that we were going to get back together and till this day I can not speak to him because he still has feelings for me. (Note: You know who I am talking about) But there are a few ex's I can still speak to without it being weird because he and I no longer look at each other the way we used to. So if you can't see him as just a friend, or vice versa, then you need to seperate to grow, if not, then its not so bad to talk to each other ( ... )