I hate to say it, but I'm actually surprised it took this long. Once you moved to a different state, even though it was for a job, I'm not surprised that Lori's helplessness came out more.. .nor am I surprised that she stopped feeling married. It's hard to feel married to someone who no longer lives with you, and who encourages you to date others (and dates others himself).
I think if you want her back, it's going to take some pretty major work on BOTH of your sides. Counseling may help too.
Good luck. I hope it works out the way you want it to.
Well, it's not like I had much choice in the matter, that was the only prospect I'd had in a year and a half. I kept looking on a daily basis for something that would let me go back home, or at least move significantly closer, but never found it.
Military families routinely deal with this sort of separation.
As to the poly issues, I know you and I are on opposite sides of the world on that.
At this point, I presume she's walked out and there is a divorce in the offing, but she hasn't said that, and has only told me "I don't know" when I've been able to ask her.
The conditions in the house are unbelievable, but if I subtract the "Incredibly sloppy housekeeping" issues, then all that's wrong is that the heat needs turned on, which would have been a $70 service call.
If she wants to leave, and/or divorce me, that's ok, but I kinda do think she has some responsibility here, at least to let me know what's going on.
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I hate to say it, but I'm actually surprised it took this long. Once you moved to a different state, even though it was for a job, I'm not surprised that Lori's helplessness came out more.. .nor am I surprised that she stopped feeling married. It's hard to feel married to someone who no longer lives with you, and who encourages you to date others (and dates others himself).
I think if you want her back, it's going to take some pretty major work on BOTH of your sides. Counseling may help too.
Good luck. I hope it works out the way you want it to.
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Well, it's not like I had much choice in the matter, that was the only prospect I'd had in a year and a half. I kept looking on a daily basis for something that would let me go back home, or at least move significantly closer, but never found it.
Military families routinely deal with this sort of separation.
As to the poly issues, I know you and I are on opposite sides of the world on that.
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The conditions in the house are unbelievable, but if I subtract the "Incredibly sloppy housekeeping" issues, then all that's wrong is that the heat needs turned on, which would have been a $70 service call.
If she wants to leave, and/or divorce me, that's ok, but I kinda do think she has some responsibility here, at least to let me know what's going on.
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