Comments | dear_life______: A new icon, and it was quite a journey to get there.

dear_life______

A new icon, and it was quite a journey to get there.

Apr 27, 2005 01:07

It's weird because it wasn't what I had in mind. You know, this stupid and insignificant icon decision I went through seems to concisely depict how I should handle most situations in my life.

I was going to use half my face. Then tiresias2 mentioned those body photos on my user info(particularly the GEB one). I liked them as well, but thought it was kind ( Read more... )

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noobhat April 27 2005, 15:28:15 UTC

Those are some pretty nice shots!

dear_life______ April 29 2005, 01:12:38 UTC

thanks!

plutima April 27 2005, 16:08:14 UTC

Some people might say you think to much. I must admit that I do. I admire the long process you went through to reach your new icon. I suppose it is a peculiar admiration, but I can relate to the process. I go through similar processes on a daily basis. Keep it up.

dear_life______ April 29 2005, 01:16:48 UTC

yeah, it's difficult for me to go through this kind of process in my life though. I usually stick to what's known, since it's comfortable. So I rarely change.

plutima April 29 2005, 04:03:20 UTC

perhaps your change is more constant than you know, but incredibly subtle.

dear_life______ April 29 2005, 05:00:13 UTC

possibly. Looking back, I think the change I go through happen at slow rate.

generaleclectic April 27 2005, 19:31:28 UTC

Wow, you put so much effort in that. Now you have a gallery of new icons. Most importantly, you've picked a good one.
I must agree, you worry too much, just as I worry too much. But worrying to much does not mean that you think too much; Thinking and worrying are to different pairs of shoes - one is neutral and the other is not open-minded but mind-closing instead, making you seek rest for your weary head after a while.
The decision to drop the apocalyptic thinking tradition would help you I guess. A good reason for this is that the self-organisational potential of humanity/mankind is in fact bigger than anyone might expect of it. So there's no chaos coming.
Please keep away from boredom, Miss.

All the best
Yannick

dear_life______ April 29 2005, 01:34:58 UTC

The distinction you're making between thinking and worrying is something I need to be more aware of. A majority of my thinking is consumed with worry, so I connect them together. Then I feel like I want to stop thinking because it's stressing me out. But I guess I shouldn't stop thinking completely; the worrying part is what I need to control.

generaleclectic April 29 2005, 13:11:52 UTC

Yup.

secretsquirrel2 April 27 2005, 22:06:42 UTC

I'm always impressed by how similar your reasoning is to mine. I had a therapy appointment last tuesday, my first time back in a year. One of the things that it made me think about was why I seem to find it so difficult to change when other people who also have difficulty manage to ( ... )

dear_life______ April 28 2005, 22:08:55 UTC

New ideas are more "shocking" and consequently more likely to change us than ones we already know.

A new idea is untested and provides "Shock value". It's something we haven't thought of before and therefore it hasn't been subject to our emotions, perceptions,...

Yeah, that's true. I probably haven't changed how I live my life because I'm afraid of new ideas. I've never experienced them, so they never went through my emotions/perceptions, and I don't know what to expect as a result.

Now you lost me after that. I'm having a difficult time understanding what you're saying here:

..and all the filters we put shit through when we incorporate it ( ... )

secretsquirrel2 April 29 2005, 01:04:01 UTC

no that isn't what I meant... Sorry I'm having a hard time of explaining it simply since this would otherwise probably take me pages just to explain all the indvidual terms I'm using in this particular context ( ... )

dear_life______ April 29 2005, 02:18:13 UTC

oh great, my comment just disappered. I hate when that happens, especially when it's long and you don't remember what you wrote.

anyways. I understand a bit more of what you're saying. It seems to make sense for why I can't do things that other people easily accomplish and have no problem doing so.

It's interesting that you gave that example because I've experienced it before. I see people advised to write a note to the person if they're afraid to talk to them, and they readily go along with it, having little difficulty. But when that same idea comes into my head, I have to carefully think over it and wonder if it's really a good thing to do.

That guy in HS who I was too afraid to speak to, I assumed he was too afraid to talk to me since he seemed to lack some confidence, which I unfortunately did as well. I thought about writing him a letter(here is one of them), and when I finished, I read over it. I tried to imagine what his reaction would be to each sentence, carefully trying to make sure it sounded fine ( ... )

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