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Dec 29, 2005 18:56

If a person becomes involved in a serious (marriage worthy) relationship...then does one continue to do their social calender as done all the years before even though the places and people you will be with don't want your significant other around? Or do you act as a couple and stand up for your spouse to be? Or do you just ignore them and go about ( Read more... )

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yvesilena December 30 2005, 02:04:50 UTC
I'd definitely spend New Years with her, and you sound like you are pretty sure you want to (and good for you :) What I'd do is explain the situation *politely* to your friends - you'd love to spend time with them and you do understand why they don't want a stranger tagging along, but you want to put her first, so you'd rather skip the party and maybe meet up with the friends another time :)

The trick when making speeches like this is NOT to be SO nice and so regretful that they suspect you would really rather spend the time with them and she is pushing you around. Unfortunately you do have to get it across that it would make you happy to spend New Years with her rather than them. Otherwise they'll be angry at her and think you need to be persuaded out of her clutches. I speak from MUCH bitter experience.

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debslover January 1 2006, 16:04:25 UTC
well the whole matter is pointless now..the season is over and the rules have been set...
She manipulated me right to the end...

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debslover January 1 2006, 16:05:44 UTC
yeah..and I'm the one with no friends in this town...it's her that's leaving me home to rot...

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my view on the matter sharcie December 30 2005, 05:33:32 UTC
I think you show up with a nice big FUCK YOU look on your face. You love her...spend New Years with her. at the stroke of midnight lay a big one on her! Thats my advice. One shouldn't have to end all previously planned social events just because you have a special someone. Friends should accept anyone their friend brings around. They don't have to like them, but accept the fact that they are there and aren't going anywhere.

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