woohoo an update! Just what you've all been waiting for!

Apr 04, 2005 23:28

Ok so I figured I had better update, especially since I have added a couple of new friends and not updated since then, which basically just means I've been lurking around their journals which is pretty creepy if you ask me. SO wihtout further ado ( Read more... )

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gittygiggles April 5 2005, 04:54:00 UTC
men are just stupid. it's nothing personal. they're all like that.

i think that if you can get along with him and you can see yourslef living happily ever after, go for it. dan and i didn't have fireworks and warm fuzzies while we were dating really. we had a LOT of fun...but i mean....i wasn't attracted to him really until after we were engaged. what made me realize he was "the one" was that after a 12 hour date, i missed him. and called him when he got home. after that date, we talked on the phone every day. :)

i hope i helped instead of just reminising about the prechild days!

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debsters1101 April 5 2005, 09:34:00 UTC
thats so.... unhollywood you know what i mean? im having such a hard time figuring out howmuch chemistry really does need to be there, and how much chemistry i just think should be there cuz hollywood says it should be.... oyyyy its hard to do the right thing.... but ill keep u posted dont worry.

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gittygiggles April 5 2005, 11:24:44 UTC
i know. it is hard. i'm sure you've read how "romantic" dan is. when we were engaged and i got my wisdom teeth out he bought me a cantelope. even now he's like "we're fat bc you are such a good cook" i have to remind him about women and the f word. so yeah. chemistry is good, but only in that you enjoy spending time with them. if you can see yourself being friends a lon time, then its al good :) friendship is the most important part of a relationship/marriage

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lola100 April 5 2005, 06:27:18 UTC
Just lola - I don't want my name on line.

But I would tell you, don't be so quick to break it off. Chemistry is a hard thing when it comes to frum couples. There is so much you can't do , you know what I mean? Just don't do something you may regret. Also, have you ever gone somewhere fun on a date and not had a good time? (Like a sports center or something)

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debsters1101 April 5 2005, 09:36:41 UTC
ive never not had fun on a date thats supposed to be fun. BUT there was a certain point, between date #4 and 5, that we hadnt really done anything fun yet, and i said to myself, were gonna do something fun on this next date, and if i dont have a BLAST, its over. and then we played monopoly at barnes n nobls and i hada BLAST and we continued. BUT last night he told me that he wasnt really being himself that night. so what that means to me is that if he had been himself, i probably would not have continued the relationship. hmmmmmmmmm.

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lola100 April 5 2005, 09:41:04 UTC
What does that mean, he wasn't being himself? That's so weird. Other fun dates - was he being himself?

Maybe you should not see him a little bit and see if you miss him? I'm probably not the best one to give advice in this area - I knew my husband for about a month and a half before we got engaged, and we had lots of fun. We had to settle down to talk about serious stuff.

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debsters1101 April 5 2005, 09:49:24 UTC
see, thats always how i pictured my courtship going. i, by nature, am a crazy psycho fun person. so while i dont NEED a crazy fun psycho person, a) i always just assumed id get one anyway and b) he should at the very least be able to feed off of my wacko-ness... not get confused when i say something weird. you hear?

and as for not being himself, he told me he was being silly and funny becasue he knows girls like that. weird?

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liz0002 April 5 2005, 12:46:54 UTC
ok, after reading all those comments, i have to put in my two cents, even though im coming from a totally different place than you are.
i've never met dov, and until this post thought that you were happy with him (was even looking forward to pretending to be married to eli at the wedding!) but if you're not, it doesn't seem right just to stay with him b/c you feel like it's time to get married. i know it's not like this in your community, but im really a firm believer in getting to know someone really well first. cuz how else will you know if you're really compatible? it's something to think about.

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impulse2000 April 6 2005, 07:34:38 UTC
skank

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tellinellen July 13 2008, 13:59:35 UTC
hi! i'm writing to you because you're on the friendslist of introducingyael (formerly bluejeanjexy). i'd like to get a gift for her from lj friends who are interested in chipping in. i know what she needs and i am working on wheeling and dealing to get it. i just want a sense of who would put in and how much, but i won't collect any money until i've already spent it. i know she really wants a bugaboo bee stroller which would work for moo and/or for the grape and would fold well for her building. please let me know if you're interested and how much you'd like to put in. my email address is ellen.sande@gmail.com. apologies if you get this message more than once.

thanks!

ellen

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debsters1101 July 13 2008, 14:08:45 UTC
that is SO sweet of you. How much are you looking for from each person? unfortunately my funds right now are pretty nil since my husband and I are both in school.... I don't think I'd be able to afford too much...

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tellinellen July 13 2008, 15:19:42 UTC
no rules - anyone who wants to be involved can give as little or much as works for them :)

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cerabellum January 29 2009, 20:22:44 UTC
so I am curious... did you marry him?

(total random, I realize.)

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debsters1101 January 29 2009, 20:35:55 UTC
hi, sorry, do I know you?? this is, indeed, very random.

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cerabellum January 29 2009, 20:39:35 UTC
no... sorry! i saw your comment on the Israel DITL and grover made me want to check your journal (as I often do on the DITL posts - some of the most interesting people there). Since this was the only entry, I read it (of course) and then read your profile info. that said you were married and had a baby. Curiosity got the best of me...

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debsters1101 January 29 2009, 20:42:02 UTC
haha yeah I friends locked my posts a while ago, strange that this one seemed to get away.
yes, I did marry him, we're very happy together, and we have one daughter and one on the way :-)

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